8 Sexy Underthings To Gift Yourself This Valentine’s Day

If you're uncoupled, Valentine's Day is the perfect day to practice some self-love.

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Valentine’s Day can be a pretty rough time for anyone who’s uncoupled. But it’s an important opportunity to take a moment to cherish self-love, and recognize that, even when we don’t have a partner, we’re always still coupled with ourselves — and that relationship deserves to be celebrated.

“Regardless of your partner status, feeling confident and sexy is a great goal for everyone. Our sexual self is there whether we have a lover or not, and there is no reason to forgo that part of our lives just because we are single. Feeling sexy can add to our confidence which in turn can help us negotiate the wider world with more positive energy,” says Searah Deysach (she/her; LGBTQ+), sex educator and owner of Early to Bed

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It’s all about being good to yourself, and also treating yourself like the sexy person you are, whether or not sex with a partner is currently part of the larger picture.

“A sexy little secret that only you know about, like silky lingerie, can boost your confidence because you know you are doing something for yourself. When you take your own sexuality and sensuality seriously outside the confines of a relationship, you are telling yourself that you are worth those feelings and sensations,” says Deysach. “You do not need to rely on the approval or sexual interest of another person to be the embodied hottie that you know you are.” 

Bravissimo Lacey Love Bra 

Bravissimo Lacey Love Bra 

This bra’s heart lace fabric screams Valentine’s Day — or just self-love. But it’s more than a pretty bra; it’s full cup and non-padded, so that the stretch lace style can help to support and accentuate your natural shape.

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Bloomers Her Highness Lace Brief Ruby Red

Bloomers Her Highness Lace Brief Ruby Red

These classic, high-waisted panties are made with four-way stretch lace for light support and maximum comfort. But thanks to that same lace, they’re super sexy and ready for all situations. They come with a mesh laundry bag, which will make laundry day cleaner and keep them in tip-top shape.

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Journelle Allegra Balconette Bra

Journelle Allegra Balconette Bra

This bra is so gorgeous and supportive, it’ll be hard to tell if it looks better when making your clothes fit their best, or when you’re wearing no clothes at all. It’s made with beautiful Italian lace detail, with lace cups and stretch mesh wings.

$98 at Journelle
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Bare Necessities EMPREINTE Agathe Full Cup Bra

Bare Necessities EMPREINTE Agathe Full Cup Bra
Bare Necessities

This is gorgeous and totally a splurge – but if you don’t splurge on what makes you feel good, then when would you? Super luxurious and very sexy, it’s a supportive underwire with a three-part sheet cup, to make sure the ladies feel their very best. 

$195 at Bare Necessities
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Cosabella Never Say Never Sweetie Bralette

Cosabella Never Say Never Sweetie Bralette[

A bra that’s comfortable for lounging and a bra that makes you feel your sexiest don’t have to be mutually exclusive. This wireless bralette has a sweetheart shaped neckline and comes in dozens of colors. You just may want to get one for your every mood (or outfit!).

$65 at Cosabella
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LUVLETTE Solid Contrast Lace Cami Top & Shorts PJ Set

 LUVLETTE Solid Contrast Lace Cami Top & Shorts PJ Se

The December holidays  are gone until next year, but it’s still a great chance to be festive. These PJs are super cozy and fun, and perfect for whenever you are having a sleepover with the ladies or just curling up on the couch to watch Netflix. And it’ll be just fine for a sultry date night as well.

$14 at Luvlette
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Dafne Over The Knee Socks

Dafne Over The Knee Socks
vienne milano

While socks are largely functional, keeping your feet protected and warm, that doesn’t mean they can’t be sexy and fun. These over the knee socks are like a naughty little secret only you know about.

$25 at VienneMilano
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Rya Collection Frida Ruffle Chiffon Chemise

Frida Ruffle Chiffon Chemise

This ruffled chemise is oh-so-sexy and unique. The flirty cutout and flounced hem are sure to get noticed should you invite a guest over after all.

$120 at Nordstrom
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Aly Walansky
Aly Walansky is a NYC-based freelance writer focusing on food and travel. Read more
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