Does Sarah Jessica Parker think Carrie marrying Big was a mistake?

Sex and the City may have ended over a decade ago (where has the time gone?!), but we’re still finding out fascinating tidbits about the beloved series. Just last month, we found out that the majority of the wacky things in the show were actually based on true events, and that Sarah Jessica Parker didn’t even relate to Carrie Bradshaw all that much.

Then, we found out series creator Darren Star wasn’t a fan of the happy ending between Carrie and Big, claiming that “[it] ultimately betrayed what it was about, which was that women don’t ultimately find happiness from marriage,” he told Elle.

“Not that they can’t [find happiness from marriage]. But the show initially was going off script from the romantic comedies that had come before it,” he explained then. “That’s what had made women so attached. At the end, it became a conventional romantic comedy. . . But unless you’re there to write every episode, you’re not going to get the ending you want.”

So what does Carr—uh, I mean, Sarah Jessica Parker think about the happily ever after? In a recent interview with Yahoo Style, she respectfully disagreed, explaining that she actually thought Carrie and Big tying the knot made sense.

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“As I recall, the way Carrie and Big married was something she wanted rather than a feeling that life was slipping away and she best settle quickly,” Sarah told Yahoo. “I don’t think of it as someone diminishing herself by letting a man marry her—it always felt that she had arrived at that on her own.”

She also added that she can see where the creator is coming from: “But the beauty is we can all have lots and lots of opinions about lots of choices Carrie made that we object to or that we stand by. If that’s Darren’s feeling, I think it’s interesting!”

Perhaps we’ll be debating this for another decade, but one thing’s for sure: Sarah’s definitely Team Big.

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