1. Meeting your future in-laws is the worst.
Or meeting your person’s family is the worst, however you want to phrase it. Listen, I have only done this twice because I have only had two serious boyfriends, but both times I was so riddled with nerves that a cardboard cutout me could have just gone in my place. I am 1000000% not myself when I first meet most people unless the scenario is something I’m comfortable, but there is just so much pressure when meeting your relationship person’s family! I know how it is!
2. And it is also okay to care what the family thinks.
So after Meredith (Sarah Jessica Parker, duh) meets Everett’s (Dermot Mul-hottie) family, things go exactly like my nightmares. The family doesn’t like her, his sister Amy (my #1 celeb crush Rachel McAdams) is super mean to her, the mom (Diane Keaton, Goddess) is clearly not stoked, and everything is very awkward. Meredith tries to tough it out, but keeps miserably failing. In a very perfect piece of dialogue, Meredith tells Amy that she doesn’t care whether she likes her or not. To which Amy perfectly replies:
3. Siblings are the best.
The Stone family has five kids (which is a ton) and they all get along, even as adults. Seeing Everett interact with Ben (Luke Wilson, Dream Human) is so hilarious because they are seemingly really different, yet they are perfect brothers. The sibling interactions between not only the Stone kids, but also between Meredith and her sister Julie (Claire Danes) are so believable. Sibling dynamics are definitely one of the reasons this movie stays high on my list of favorites.
4. Appreciate the time you have together.
Without being too spoiler-y, I will say something vague like…our time on this beautiful mess of a planet is not guaranteed. Holidays are such a jumbled, disorganized, financially and emotionally stressful time, but if you have a family, spend time with them.
No, The Family Stone didn’t teach me this. I have never liked the word normal and I never use the word normal, but there is a scene in this movie that just drives home the whole idea that normalcy is absolutely relative.
6. Don’t be jerks.
As I have already mentioned a bit, Everett’s family isn’t all that nice to Meredith. I am definitely one to not be nice to people I don’t like, but I will advise that no one should go entirely out of their way to be mean to anyone. Just don’t be a jerk. Be more like a Kelly (Craig Nelson), who humors his nutty family, but then also defends Meredith when she needs him to, telling his family that they are to welcome her back like civilized people.
7. Let your freak flag fly.
When beautiful Ben takes Meredith out for a drink to let her vent about Amy and everything else, they really hit it off, likely because Ben encourages Meredith to “let her freak flag fly.” She literally lets her hair down and drinks beer and dances with police officers and has a genuinely good time. Hey everyone: let your hair down sometimes. It’ll all be alright.
I am so obsessed with him.
8. Never settle for less than real love.
Meredith and Everett start to fall apart a bit when Meredith and Ben are clearly drawn to each other at the exact same time that Everett starts falling for Julie, who is quite the opposite of her sister. Of course, Everett planned on proposing to Meredith, yet his mother, Sybil, has a really hard time giving him the family ring to pass on to her. Toward the end, when Meredith and Everett are clearly not going to work out, Sybil and Everett have a heart-wrenching conversation. I cry with them, always.
9. Accept your family for who they are.