Anna Gragert
April 12, 2016 5:12 pm
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Though the whole premise of Sister, Sister revolved around Tia and Tamera looking exactly alike, not everyone saw it that way. And, sadly, Tamera paid the price.

During a recent episode of her talk show The Real, Tamera opened up about insecurities that have shadowed her since she was a teen. Now, we all know how hard being a teen can be (one word: hormones), but can you imagine being a teen on TV?

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“It’s so dumb and stupid, but kids can say really dumb things,” Tamera explained, according to Seventeen, referring to a fan letter she once received. “I can remember reading this stupid letter when this person called me ugly and said I was the ‘ugly and goofy twin.’ And for years, I made an agreement with that stupid statement. And I carried it around with me for years. I thought I was ugly and I thought I was goofy.”

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Back in the day, both Tia and Tamera would take the time to read all their fan mail. They’d even send back autographs! Yet, we can imagine how Tamera’s bullying experience would put a damper on this entire situation, making it difficult to keep doing all the good she was doing.

Seeing that her confidence was greatly affected, one of Tamera’s friends stepped up to give her a lesson in self-love. “My amazing best friend said, ‘You know what Tamera? You are not 16 years old anymore,” Tamera revealed. “You do not need to listen to that insecurity in your head anymore. You do not let other people define who you are.'”

Thanks to her friend’s wise words, Tamera has completely changed her outlook on bullying. She states“To this day, when I read negative comments like that, I say, ‘I do not have to make an agreement with that. Your words and you — who I don’t even know… I’m not going to give you power over who I am. I know who I am and you don’t define me. I define me.”

Our new, three-word mantra: I define me. 

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