Jessica Wakeman
Updated May 11, 2016 @ 1:58 pm
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One thing we love about Drew Barrymore is how she’s always completely honest. She’s been heartbreakingly open about her love for her two daughters, her friendships, and her sobriety. Last night on the premiere of Chelsea Handler’s new talk show, Chelsea, Drew spoke honestly about “failure” and her recent divorce announcement.

Last month, Drew and her husband of nearly four years, Will Kopelman, released a joint statement to People announcing their split.

“Sadly our family is separating legally, although we do not feel this takes away from us being a family. Divorce might make one feel like a failure, but eventually you start to find grace in the idea that life goes on,” the statement read. “Our children are our universe, and we look forward to living the rest of our lives with them as the first priority.”

For a lot of people, that statement would be enough (and they certainly don’t owe us anything in this very personal situation). But as USA Today reported, Drew decided to explain exactly why they used that word “failure” in the announcement, as some people might find that word a little, well, raw.

“I put in my statement about (our) divorce, the word ‘failure,’ because it’s so honest,” Drew explained to Chelsea Handler. “When you break up with somebody, you’re like, ‘Yeah, that didn’t work.’ When you get divorced you’re like, ‘I’m the biggest failure. This is the biggest failure.’ … It’s so shameful and hard to actually go through that, even privately.”

So what is Drew doing while she copes from this enormous life change? A lot of “girlfriend time,” she told Chelsea. “Everyone has just been so cool and chill and nice about everything that it quelled my own fears and demons about how we sort of have to go through things in life,” she said.

Hey, that’s a feeling we can all relate to — and it’s pretty awesome that Drew Barrymore is reminding us that even celebrities aren’t immune to getting down on themselves when a relationship ends. We hope she remembers that getting a divorce does NOT mean you’re a failure, and like anything else in life, it’s a learning experience.