Patton Oswalt had some words to say about fans who criticized his engagement

Proving that it’s always possible to find love again, Patton Oswalt announced his engagement to fiancee Meredith Salenger just a few days ago. Oswalt has definitely had a rough year. Last spring, Michelle McNamara, his wife of more than 10 years, was found dead in her sleep, and it took a while to figure out what caused her death.

"We learned today the combination of drugs in Michelle’s system, along with a condition we were unaware of, proved lethal," Oswalt said this February.

As he spent time grieving the loss, he began dating Salenger, an actress who appeared in films like Lake Placid and had small roles in shows like Dawson’s Creek and Buffy The Vampire Slayer. But while the two seem quite happy, they were still hit with criticism over the news. Long story short, many fans felt as if the engagement happened a bit too quickly after McNamara’s passing.

Of course, Oswalt was preparing for this type of reaction — even referring to the negative commenters as “grub worms.”

On Facebook, he posted a blog entry from a woman named Erica Roman, whose husband died three days after McNamara and who found comfort in Oswalt’s openness about his grief.

The post, titled “A Widow’s Rage Defense of Patton Oswalt’s Engagement,” made some excellent points that commenters might not have realized.

"You aren’t entitled to an opinion. You don’t get to comment on the choices of a widower while you sit happily next to your own living spouse. You didn’t have to stand and watch your mundane morning turn into your absolute worst nightmare," Roman wrote. "You didn’t have to face the agony of despair and the only person who could possibly bring you comfort had been ripped from your life forever. You didn’t have to stand in the ashes of what was once your life, when the sun itself darkened and the very air you breathed felt toxic in your lungs."

The very powerful entry was shared over 10,000 times — and it’s the perfect way to explain how losing a loved one really feels.


It also proves that nobody can truly define grief, or tell you the correct way to grieve when you find yourself in a heartbreaking situation.

We can only imagine that falling in love again must have been tough for Oswalt. But all that really matters is that he’s happy.

And from the looks of it, Salenger has made him very, very happy.

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