This woman’s friend carried her babies for her, and you’re going to need tissues for this
This story of friendship is making us cry. New Yorker Nicole Barattini’s best friend carried her baby for her, because Nicole couldn’t do it herself.
There are a lot of things we can ask our friends. There are tests of friendship we may experience, hard conversations we may have. For those with the strongest of friendships, your BFF may even be more important than your own S.O.
Nicole Barattini and her husband thought they’d never have children. They now have twins thanks to a selfless act from their friend.
Barattini was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease — thrombotic thrombocytopenic purpura (TTP) — at age 16. She learned to live with it for over a decade, despite tiring episodes and, in extreme cases, being hospitalized.
It wasn’t until after she married her husband Kevin in 2010 that she learned TTP would cause issues with pregnancy.
The TTP medication would be harmful to her child. If she stopped treating herself, it would leave her at risk.
The Barattinis learned that some women can have a successful pregnancy with TTP. However, many children end up ill or never reach full-term.
After learning adoption would be too expensive and paid surrogacy was illegal in New York, Nicole turned to having a gestational carrier.
She froze her eggs, not knowing yet who they could use as the carrier.
"We had heard stories that sisters carried and mothers carried, but I don't have a sister and my mother is over the age [to be able to be a carrier]," Barattini says. "We just did it for precautionary reasons and hoped for the best."
In 2015, the Barattinis found a perfect surrogate in Nicole and Kevin’s friend, Lianna.
"I love my kids," Lianna says. "To see people who should have kids and couldn't upsets me."
After an unsuccessful attempt with two embryos in June 2016, Lianna tried again in July and it worked.
The two couples would go to all doctor appointments together, another sign of pure friendship.
"We had been through so much that I had been OK with the fact that I wasn't going to be able to carry, so at that point it wasn't hard at all," Nicole says. "It was actually a relief that they were going to be healthy, and there was less stress for me knowing that a really good person was carrying them."
On February 10th, Lianna gave birth to the Barattinis’ two healthy twins, Dominic and Luciana. It’s no surprise that after her touching act of friendship, she is also Luciana’s godmother.
The Barattinis’ story is a powerful and positive one for women who cannot carry children.
"It's never the end of the road. I do wish it was legal to have a surrogate [in New York], because I do think more people would do it if they were paid, unfortunately," Barattini says. "But there are people out there like Liana that will do it out of kindness — and it's easier to find them than it seems."
Here’s to true friendship, which as proven by these two friends, knows no bounds!