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ICYMI, it’s okay for boys to cry, and this martial arts instructor is reminding us so. In this viral video (with 1,275,328 views at the time of this writing, and counting), a boy, Bruce, starts to cry after breaking a block. The instructor, Shärath Jason Wilson, asks Bruce ~why~ he’s crying.

At first, Bruce doesn’t answer. Finally, he admits it was hard to break the block with his left hand.

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“You know, in life there’s going to be things harder for you to do than other things?” Wilson asked Bruce.

“Yes, sir,” said Bruce.

“And do you know, those things that may appear to be hard to do, you’re going to have to do as a man regardless? And it’s going to take tears…” said Wilson. “It’s okay to cry. We cry as men.”

Wilson told Bruce that he, too, cries a lot.

Aww. We love that Wilson’s telling Bruce crying is okay—more than okay.

Breaking blocks was part of Bruce’s initiation test to get into the Cave of Adullam Transformational Training Academy (CATTA) in Detroit, Michigan, which teaches Mūsar Rū. Wilson created it, and it’s not only mixed martial arts, but also has elements of meditation and spiritual teachings of the Bible.

“We decided to share this part of his initiation test to encourage all of you to not only allow your sons to cry when facing emotional stress, but more importantly, patiently walk them through it,”

CATTA wrote on YouTube. “During these perverse times, it’s truly vital that we, the men and fathers of this generation, do not allow our boys to grow up with a false sense of masculinity like many of us did.”

“Being a black man in this country, you’re going to need mental fortitude,” Wilson said in the video. “You’re going to have to be strong here,” he said, pointing to his brain. “More so than here,” he said, making a fist.

“And it’s good to cry so you can work through that emotion, so when it arises again, you can push it to the side, and do what you gotta do,” Wilson said.

When Bruce has to break the block again, after Wilson’s pep talk, he did so on his first try.

If you want to see Wilson’s mentoring for yourself, you can watch the whole video here.