If we could get advice from anyone, Oprah Winfrey would be pretty high on our list. And now we can (kind of), because Serena Williams just shared the dating advice Oprah once gave her, and it’s honestly applicable for everyone. In an interview for Allure magazine’s February 2019 issue, the tennis champ got personal, discussing motherhood, her career, and her husband, Alexis Ohanian. She also shared Oprah’s powerful relationship advice, revealing that the media mogul told her to never settle for someone who would “dim her light.”

About her relationship with Ohanian, Williams said, “I know now I can be selfish, have a great career, and a great partner, someone that believes in me.”

Here’s to finding the people who brighten our lights in 2019.