A few weeks ago, Rumer Willis posed victoriously with a trophy after winning Dancing with the Stars. Her confidence was electrifying and inspiring, but as she reveals in an intimate essay for Glamour, she had to fight a long-term internal battle to get to that place.
“I’d say that, before this year, I was kind of stuck,” she writes. “Fear is a really debilitating emotion.” For years she was bullied, both in the press and on social media. As a result, she writes, “I struggled a lot with my body image. I wanted to have no butt; I wanted to have no boobs. For a long time I just wanted to look tiny and androgynous.”
After so much cruel and unwarranted public criticism, she became her own worst bully. “Until recently the thought of making one misstep that could be criticized would stop me from trying new things and from standing up for myself,” she writes.
But as we all know, Mother Dearest usually always knows best and Rumer was able to get some very valuable advice from her Mama Moore.
Luckily, it’s advice that’s stuck with her to this day and now she’s coming out strongly against bullying (she already won our hearts when she dedicated her mirror ball to everyone else that was in the same place as she once was).
Only until recently was she finally able get over all of her fears and truly accept herself for who (and what) she really is, crediting her time on DWTS as the catalyst for helping her break free of the cycle of fear.
Her killer confidence and self-acceptance feel, as she puts it, “completely new” to her though. “When you don’t think you can do something, you have so much self-doubt—but then when you not only do it but do it well, you start believing in yourself.” Now she’s new, improved, and feeling “unstoppable.”
And she’s spreading that message of self-love to put an end to the bullying of others—and ourselves.
“What it comes down to is this: We all need to stop bullying ourselves and being cruel to other women. Attacking one another instead of supporting one another has become the norm. Life’s hard enough as it is. Let’s find strength in the fact that we’re different and unique. Let’s allow ourselves to say, ‘These are my flaws, but I’m still beautiful.’ Let’s find our own value, know what we have to offer—and know that that is enough.”
Well said, Miss Willis, well said. Thank you so much for sharing, for caring, and for bravely taking a stand against bullying of all kinds. You. Are. Loved.