Gwendolyn Purdom
March 19, 2018 12:56 pm

Nico Tortorella and Bethany Meyers wore crowns to their intimate wedding ceremony earlier this month, and it makes perfect sense. Judging by the photos and the heartfelt article they wrote themselves about the experience, the union between the Younger actor and the fitness and lifestyle entrepreneur was nothing short of regal.

The whole day the two described in their frank story for LGBTQ publication them. sounds like a touching non-traditional celebration of their love and their 12-year polyamorous relationship, but a few details in particular stuck out. First, there were the outfits. The couple sported matching white, drapey numbers that were part gown, part tux.  The “genderbending ensembles,” Tortorella, said in the post, were designed to be “timeless androgynous paraphernalia mimicking romanesque sculpture that fluidly blends masculine and feminine. in this relationship, we both wear the pants and the dress.” In pictures posted on each of their social media accounts, the silver crowns they each topped their looks with take things up another fabulous notch. 

The ceremony itself, as the pair described it, also sounds like the perfect choice for the personal vibe Tortorella and Meyers were going for on their big day. The wedding went down at the office of the city clerk in Lower Manhattan on March 9, and their particular nuptials were presided over by a person named, fittingly, Angel. After the courthouse bit was done, Meyers and Tortorella hopped in a cab and headed over to St. Paul’s Chapel, the oldest church in Manhattan, and somehow managed to exchange their seriously tearjerking vows (no, really, go read them) without so much as having reserved the place (wait, but how did they actually pull that off?). Meyers wrote in the article that for as unique as the day was, she was surprised that it stirred some pretty traditional wedding-related emotions inside her:

The two have been open and vocal about their sexual fluidity and polyamorous relationship over the years. Tortorella, who plays Josh TVLand’s Younger, has said he sees himself as pansexual, while Meyers has said she identifies as gay, though both emphasis that they’re not into labels. “I think that if we all just saw each other for people and individuals and didn’t try to give each other these [labels], the world would be such a more beautiful place,” Tortorella told The Advocate last year.

Instead of a honeymoon, Meyers and Tortorella spent the days after their wedding working on their joint post about the experience, not to exploit it, they said, but to “simply to share a piece of our love story with the hope of shedding light and inspiring other nontraditional relationships,” Tortorella wrote. Meyers echoed a similar sentiment about wanting others to see themselves in the couple’s tying the knot:

Now, if you’ll excuse us, we have some happy sobbing to do.