After her son's horrific death, this woman wrote a tearjerking list of reminders for other moms
31-year-old Ashley Grimm’s life changed forever on June 2nd. She was driving with five of her children in their family van when a large rock rolled into her lane. At that point, Ashley had two choices: try to straddle the rock or move into the oncoming land with a fast-moving river on the other side. “I chose the rock. I chose wrong,” Grimm explained, leading up to the fact that her 4-year-old son Titus passed away after being crushed by their van.
Ashley later felt the need to explain how her son died because he was not wearing his seatbelt at the time of the accident. Though she made sure all her children were buckled in before driving, Titus had been known to unbuckle his seatbelt no matter what he was strapped into – because he wanted to be a superhero like The Flash. “We tried five-point harness seats, boosters, I believe even zip ties at one point (probably not safe either),” revealed Ashley, “But he always viewed it as a superhero challenge. He was a superhero because he always succeeded.” Although his mom constantly pulled over to re-buckle her son, Titus never gave up.
Following the accident, Ashley was understandably in shock, which was compounded by the fact that Facebook commentors teared the grieving mother apart because they believe she was the one to blame for the accident.
Two days after her son’s death, Ashley saw the news reports all over her Facebook timeline. “I was thankful they reported that no drugs or alcohol had been a factor. But that’s not what hurt,” stated Grimms. “The readers commented the cruelest things about how horrible of a mother I was. How I deserved it. How my children should be taken from me.” In response, the mom was enraged because she loved her son more than words can explain and worked hard to protect him.
“[I wanted to tell commentors] how close we were, how hard I fought to keep him safe. How we had a special good night kiss and a designated McDonald’s date each week,” wrote Ashley. “I wanted to scream that he always told me … I was the best mama ever. That he built me Lego ships, took naps in my bed while holding my hand with his dimpled little fingers.”
Despite commentors’ cruel words in the face of her grief, that hasn’t stopped Ashley from working to remind other mothers of just how important their time is with their children.
In fact, Grimm compiled a list of essential reminders for all the parents out there:
“Mamas, hold your children tight,” concluded Grimm. “How blessed you are to have been entrusted with such unique, beautiful, tiny humans.“