Kit Steinkellner
October 07, 2015 12:03 pm

Lorna McGuire’s daughter Paddy was assigned a male gender at birth, but as her mother tells it, Paddy always identified as a girl.

“​At two years old she was walking round with necklaces and handbags, with towels on her head pretending she had long hair,” Lorna told BuzzFeed. “​She bugged me for two years from the age of three to buy her a dress.”

At age five, Lorna relented and bought her daughter that dress.

“As soon as she put the dress on that’s when I knew,” Lorna explained. “It was a eureka moment. A light bulb went on. As soon as she had the dress on and I saw her face, tears came down my eyes and I knew. Her face lit up. She was so happy, I’ve never seen her so happy in all my life.”

It was this realization that inspired Lorna to write the following poem about her daughter:

I had a little caterpillar, small, cute and blue
He reminded me so much of you
I loved him and fed him, tended his every need
But he wanted to change
I had to follow his lead

I loved and supported still wondering why
‘Til the day my boy said goodbye
You spun your silk all round your shell
You wove your web and said your spell
The inside of your soul shone out
And the real you came about

I was amazed, what else could I think?
No longer a shy boy whose heart would sink
But a beautiful butterfly, loud, proud and pink
Sometimes I miss my caterpillar boy
But my butterfly girl fills my heart with joy

Though Lorna wrote this poem 3 years ago, and Paddy is now 8, the poem recently resurfaced as mother and daughter are participating in the UK’s Channel 4 documentary My Transgender Kid, which airs this week. Video of Lorna reading the poem to Paddy below (Be prepared to cry a little, tiny bit and then to totally lose it when Paddy asks her mom what “symbolism” means.):

So does Lorna have any words of wisdom for parents who think their child might be trans?

“If you think they’re showing signs, take them to the doctor; they’ll refer you on,” Lorna told Buzzfeed. “But mostly just love your child the same, no matter what, and accept your child –they’ll be much happier in the gender they are in their mind than they are in their body.”

Related:

What Laverne Cox told a 7-year-old trans girl, and why it matters

This beautiful video of a trans teen learning she can begin hormone therapy will touch your heart

(Image via Channel 4/YouTube)

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