Women are constantly pressured to “have it all”—to be perfect employees, wives, and mothers. There are various schools of thought on the “have it all” debate, but if you ask Kelly Rowland, she says you can—you just need a good “shecosystem.” Rowland coined this brilliant term, which is basically just an elevated way to describe close, supportive friends. She used it in an interview with O, The Oprah Magazine, while sharing how she grapples with the chaos and stress of everyday life.

Rowland goes to therapy, but she recognizes that therapy is a financial privilege. For those who can’t afford mental health care, this is where your shecosystem comes into play.