Let’s stop asking women about their fertility status and bodies, mmkay?

Arielle Tschinkel
September 11, 2020
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At this point, we thought it should go without saying, but it seems some people still need a reminder: Please don’t ask someone if they’re pregnant—or any other probative questions about their fertility status—even if it’s just what you think is a casual comment on a celebrity’s Instagram page.

Confused? Allow us to explain. Jennifer Garner, the true queen of Instagram, posted a video tour of her family’s farm in Oklahoma, introducing followers to her farm pets, the herd of cows she calls “the farm’s lawnmowers.” Of course, it’s among the cutest things we’ve seen all week. One follower took to the comments section to (inexplicably) ask Garner if she’s pregnant, and while she could have ignored or blocked the troll, she took the opportunity to shut down speculation in the best way possible.

"I am 48, have three healthy kids, and am not—and never will be—pregnant. We can lay that pupper to rest,” Garner wrote.

"Have [I] gained the Covid 19? Possibly. But that is another story," she added.

It’s also worth mentioning that commenting on a person’s body in any capacity isn’t cool either—though we do love the way Garner shut it down with her signature brand of humor.

Even if the comment or question is well intentioned, it can come across as a form of body shaming. Plus, you never know what someone might be going through health-wise, making comments about pregnancy or weight gain particularly hurtful, and it’s terrible that women still have to answer for their bodies, their appearances, and their fertility status to random trolls on the internet.

Now, back to the important stuff: If you haven’t seen Garner’s farm tour, what exactly are you waiting for?

Our only complaint is that it’s a bit too brief, and we’re gonna need one-on-one introductions with all six of the cows, perhaps a “day-in-the-life-of” segment. What do you say, Jen?