Hers is a name us ’90s kids know well — even if we were too young to fully understand the whole situation. But now it’s 2018, and people have questions about Monica Lewinsky, the former White House intern who made the news during Bill Clinton’s years in office. While her name was, at the time, linked with scandal, you may be wondering if Monica Lewinsky is married, and how the events from 20 years ago have affected her today.

Lewinsky’s name is back in the news after a candid piece she wrote for Vanity Fair. Discussing the #MeToo movement, she explained how her relationship with Bill Clinton — the most powerful man in the world at that time — affected her, and how she’s revisiting what happened in light of our current cultural moment. Lewinsky was only 22 years old when her relationship with Clinton began, and her essay reveals she suffered from post-traumatic stress disorder and feelings of isolation after the investigation.

Lewinsky emerged from the scandal as a stronger woman. These days, the 44-year-old is a social activist with a focus on bullying prevention. She’s worked with Vanity Fair in the past, often contributing her voice to the publication.

In terms of her personal life, Lewinsky has never married, nor does she have children. Lewinsky has been relatively quiet about her love life, which we respect.

She hasn’t scrapped the idea of marriage, telling People that she’s “promised Barbara Walters a dance at my wedding so I hope to make good on that promise some day!”

Dating is already complicated enough even when you’re not an international household name, so we get Lewinsky’s decision to keep her love life private. We’re also so glad to see her using her past experiences in such a positive and empowering way, and we look forward to seeing what she does next.