Okay, hear us out: A study found that being cheated on may be beneficial. Yes, it sounds crazy, but nonetheless it’s true. So there’s light at the end of the tunnel if you’re currently being dragged through the terrible aftermath of a cheating situation.
The results of the study, entitled “Intrasexual Mate Competition and Breakups: Who Really Wins?” have been circulating the web since 2016. The researchers involved surveyed 5,705 people from 96 countries and asked them to rate their breakups from 1 to 10, with 10 being the most painful.
As previously hypothesized, the study found that women seemed to initially take breakups harder than men, but they overcame the pain in much healthier ways. Women were more likely to allow themselves time to grieve and expressed their feelings to friends, which yielded better longterm emotional healing. Research showed that guys, however, tended to bottle their feelings up.
Things got especially interesting when participants were asked about their experiences with infidelity. Female participants who had been cheated on experienced more positive growth post-breakup. They apparently came out of their experiences with a better perspective on why the relationship had been toxic, and had a better understanding of what they wanted from their next relationship.
Researchers also found that after six months, the women who were cheated on had higher “emotional intelligence” and self-confidence. Men who were cheated on showed to have developed “stronger personalities.”
The study found that the person who ends up in the roughest spot in the longterm is the person your partner left you for.
Which makes sense…because if someone cheated on their partner to be with you, they might eventually cheat on you to be with someone else.
The bottom line: If you’ve been cheated on, know you will get through this. And you’ll likely become an even better version of yourself in the process.