Anna Gragert
April 26, 2016 2:09 pm
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Though we are told “size doesn’t matter,” it isn’t the type of statement that’s universally believed. With the media skewing things in the field of body image, it’s almost impossible to feel secure in oneself no matter what your shape, size, color, or condition. This is especially true when it comes to those parts we keep private.

On a recent episode of Stuff Mom Never Told You, the clitoris was given its time to shine. Specifically, one viewer wrote in wondering if their small clitoris was affecting their ability to orgasm. This worry stemmed from a 2014 study reporting that clitoris size is connected to orgasm frequency.

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However, Stuff Mom Never Told You host Cristen Conger explained that the above study wasn’t picture perfect – it only looked at 30 (mostly white) women and had them self-report their orgasm rate. Cristen explains that the study’s author even mentioned that the relationship between clitoris size and orgasming is only a possibility because they’re not sure why this connection exists. “We still can’t tell whether this is the chicken or the egg,” study author Susan Oakley told Live Science, referring to women with larger clitorises. “Do these women have a bigger clitoris because they have more orgasms? Or are they born with a bigger clitoris that allows them to have better function?”

With all this uncertainty surrounding the 2014 study, there’s no way we can conclusively state that your clit proportions are negatively affecting your sexy time. In fact, according to sexologist Dr. Betty Dodson, the 8,000 nerve endings located in the visible part of your clitoris can fit in a super small space. So, once again: size doesn’t matter.

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Back in 2005, the very first study examining what “normal” may mean when it comes to the size of the clitoris and the vulva was released out into the world. This was the conclusion that resulted from this study: “Women vary widely in genital dimensions.” Specifically, the clitorises that were examined ranged from .4 to 4 centimeters long and .2 to 2.5 centimeters wide. Plus, it’s also important to note that the clitoris doesn’t stay the same size forever. This part of the body doubles in size when you’re aroused and, by the time we undergo menopause, the clitoris could be seven times the size it was during puberty.

If you are having trouble in the bedroom, it may instead be tied to your clitoral self-esteem. If you go into sex thinking that there’s something wrong with you, then it probably won’t be the greatest sex of your life. Sexual health educator Dr. Debby Herbenick specifically found that women confident about their genitals had an easier time climaxing – especially since they weren’t super anxious about their body image.

The moral of the story: There’s no such thing as “normal” when it comes to our beautiful bodies. Also – love your clit just the way it is.

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