Model and body-positive activist Ashley Graham, 31, has been married to husband Justin Ervin for eight years, and she has some pretty straightforward advice for keeping the spark alive. When talking to Elle for the magazine’s February issue, she said:

Graham was also open about the fact that she and Ervin decided not to sleep together until marriage in order to strengthen their bond. “I had seen the world,” she says (she had already been modeling for five years). “I slept with half of New York City. I had done it all, literally!”

When she’s not modeling/dropping sage advice, you can catch Graham on her podcast Pretty Big Deal in which she interviews the likes of Kim Kardashian, Amy Schumer, and Serena Williams.

Thanks for the food for thought, lady.