As many surely know, pop singer (and one of our favorite humans) Ariana Grande recently broke up with BF Mac Miller. The pair had been dating for almost two years, and a number of fans were surprised to see them go their separate ways. For her part, Grande let fans know that she has nothing but love for Miller, despite the fact that they’re not technically still romantically linked.
In a post to her Instagram Story the day the news broke, she posted a photo of Miller, writing, “This is one of my best friends in the whole world and favorite people on the planet malcolm mccormick. I respect and adore him endlessly and am grateful to have him in my life in any form, at all times regardless of how our relationship changes or what the universe holds for each of us! Unconditional love is not selfish. It is wanting the best for that person even if at the moment, it’s not you… I can’t wait to know and support you forever and I’m so proud of you!!”
However, one of Miller’s fans recently dragged Grande — specifically holding her accountable for Miller’s recent DUI. And Grande is absolutely not here for it. In a concise, feminist message written on Notes and then posted to Twitter, the singer broke down exactly why that line of thinking it both sexist and regressive (not to mention, completely unfair).
“I am not a babysitter or a mother and no woman should feel that they need to be. I have cared for him and tried to support his sobriety and prayed for his balance for years (and always will of course) but shaming/blaming women for a man’s inability to keep his shit together is a very major problem. Let’s please stop doing that,” she wrote.
To his credit, the fan responded to Grande’s post, apologizing for making an assumption about her life and relationship. Grande responded directly to the apology, writing,
We’re sure the fan meant to harm, but this serves as an important reminder that demonizing a woman because she decides to end a relationship — and a “toxic” relationship at that—is not only backwards, but outright dangerous. We’re so glad Grande spoke up, and we’re sure so many girls and young women are listening — and taking note.