This mother of adopted children had such a powerful response to someone who claimed she’s not a “real” mom

After being told she “couldn’t possibly understand” true motherhood because she adopted her children, one woman wrote a powerful Reddit post about parenting to silence the haters.

The woman, who uses the username vietnamazinggg on Reddit, published her response to the rude remark, which quickly earned more than 750 points and 180 comments.

"Let me tell you what being a parent is to me," she wrote. "I didn't labor for hours for this child. I labored for YEARS. I waited for years to be told that we had been chosen, that we were finally going to be allowed to be parents. I didn't feel labor pains. I felt the incredible pain of emptiness in my heart and home as my wife and I yearned to begin our family through adoption. I didn't get to wake up in the middle of the night and nurse my sweet child. I did, though, spend many nights lying awake and praying to whomever might be listening to let us be next."

A woman on Facebook tried to tell me I wasn’t a real parent since I didn’t give birth… from Parenting

She explained that every mother experiences parenting differently and pointed out how uncool it was to make assumptions about the way someone does or does not feel.

"Not every mother is a mother because she gave birth. Not every child is yours or a 'part of you' because you grew it inside of you," she went on. "My child will always be a part of me, because we're fighting for this life together. TLDR: F*ck you. I'm a mom."

Let it be known: Moms are awesome, and they come in many, many forms. It’s not up to us to decide what being a mom is like for anyone else.


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