Anna Gragert
May 25, 2016 12:26 pm

Sex may be a straightforward, three-letter word, but it is anything but simple. One’s sex life can say so much – not just about their relationships, but about who they are. What we’re saying here is that there’s an explanation for why some couples have more sex than others.

A new study published in the Journal of Research in Personality revealed that if you want to know more about someone’s sex life, you shouldn’t look at the man’s personality. Instead, you should pay attention to whether or not the woman has a zest for life and is easy to be around. This was concluded after researchers examined 278 heterosexual newlywed couples.

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For the project, all couples kept diaries that were later used to measure how often they were having sex. Plus, their personalities were taken into account, since they were asked to take a personality test involving the Big Five personality traits: extraversion, openness to experience, agreeableness, conscientiousness, and neuroticism.

Over the course of two weeks, the couples (who were mostly in their mid-20s and early-30s) revealed when they had sex and were also asked to rate the sex out of seven points. On average, the 278 pairs reported having sex on 3-4 days over a time period of two weeks. Along with this, the project confirmed that men initiated sex more than women – especially because researchers found that a couple was more likely to have sex if the woman rated higher on the agreeableness or openness to experience trait.

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Though a woman’s personality was shown to matter when it comes to the frequency of sex, both partners’ characteristics came into play when satisfaction was involved. For both genders, they were less likely to experience sexual satisfaction if their neuroticism levels were higher. When looking at the “openness” part of the Big Five personality traits, it was found that this aspect of the man’s personality was negatively correlated with satisfaction. If he was more open, the couple was seen to be less satisfied. Interestingly enough, the opposite was noted when the woman was examined.

With all of that being said, there is one thing we must all note: This one study does not represent all couples who are in all different stages of their relationships. Specifically, it focuses on newlyweds who may still be in the honeymoon stage. The project also doesn’t include same-sex relationships and doesn’t discuss location (which could make a huge difference if conservative and liberal areas are being compared). Overall, this makes the study imperfect and its results shouldn’t be taken as 100% factual.

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However, it’s still interesting to contemplate the amount of sex happy couples have – even if there is no exact number that’s right for every couple out there. “What I can say is that, in a number of studies of newlywed couples (most of whom are extremely happy), couples report having sex approximately every three to four days,” researcher Andrea L. Meltzer told NY Mag. “I am not sure, however, how frequently ‘happy’ couples who have been married longer (or even dating couples) have sex.