Shailene Woodley's real talk on losing your virginity makes us love her even more
There are so many, many things to love about Shailene Woodley. She can act the pants off of basically anyone in the world. She’s singlehandedly bringing back the Age of Aquarius with her mother-earth-fairy-child-of-the-woods-hippy-trippy-awesomeness. And when it comes to interviews, Shailene is so straightforward and honest and transparent about EVERYTHING and this leads to just the absolute most slamming quotes.
While promoting her new film “White Bird In A Blizzard,” Shai informed the Hollywood Reporter that this film will be the fourth time she’s lost her virginity onscreen. As a veteran of first-time sex on the big screen, Shai has become quite the expert on the difference between pretending to lose your virginity for the cameras and, you know, actually losing your virginity in real life:
“One of the things I have been very keen on in doing those scenes is that they feel real because, I don’t know about you, but I do not personally think losing your virginity is a fun experience. It’s not glamorous — for some people, I think it is, but it wasn’t for a lot of people on this planet — so for me, it was a matter of, if we’re gonna do a scene that deals with that, it’s not gonna be, ‘Her back arches and she gasps in excitement.’ No, no, it’s gonna be messy and it’s gonna be real.”
Shailene isn’t just worried about movie magic giving people the wrong idea about V-card shenanigans. She also thinks that peer pressure is also pressuring kids to make not-the-greatest choices for themselves when it comes to S-E-X.
“I think a lot of people feel pressured into it — not by a man or a boy in particular, but because of comparing themselves to other girls in their school. So when they actually get the deed done, they don’t feel any sort of satisfaction because it wasn’t for themselves. It was for others in a way.”
She’s absolutely right, we do get these completely skewed ideas of how glamorous and romantic losing your virginity is supposed to be — from the media and from each other.
And true, you want to do everything in your power to make sure that when you lose your virginity, the experience doesn’t, you know, completely suck. But to have unrealistic expectations of sex, or to have sex because other people are making you feel like you should, not because you actually want to, that’s just a recipe for the worst kind of disaster. So just listen to your resident Wise Woman of The Woods Shailene FairyHippyMagicDreamSprite: don’t let yourself get pressured into doing something you don’t want to do and don’t believe the all of the Hollywood hype.
(Image via Hollywood Reporter)