What your astrology element can reveal about your sex life
Astrology can reveal a lot about your romantic life, like who you’re compatible with, what you like in bed, and whether or not you’re ready for commitment. While knowing your sun sign is the first step in using the stars to navigate your love life, learning other aspects of your birth chart and the categories your sun sign falls into will help you get a greater picture of who you are romantically. For example, your moon sign can tell a lot about your emotional state and how it can factor into your relationships. Similarly, knowing the element of your zodiac sign can help you better understand your desires and motivations.
All 12 zodiac signs are broken down into four elemental groups—fire, air, water, and earth—which dictate their inner and outer energies. The four element groups balance each other out and create harmony within the universe, and people within the same elemental group are said to have similar innate traits. According to astrologer Lisa Stardust, the astrology elements can play key roles in your romantic life, especially when it comes to sex. “The element of our zodiac sign can help us understand our desires in bed, as it describes our natural passions and instincts,” Stardust tells HelloGiggles.
Below, Stardust dives into what each element can reveal about who you are in the bedroom—and what to look for in a potential partner.
Fire Signs: Aries, Leo, Sagittarius
With fire as their guiding element, these four zodiac signs like to keep things steamy. They’re passionate, dynamic, and sometimes a bit impulsive, which means they’re known for heated love affairs that can also be pretty brief. When it comes to sex, they like to take charge, but that doesn’t mean they won’t pay attention to what their partners want—in fact, they’re very attentive and open to communication.
“They like to be the best partners ever—even requiring feedback throughout the course of the encounters,” Stardust says. “Fire signs totally aim to please and are the most eager lovers ever.”
Fire Signs like to change things up and keep things interesting, which is integral to their sex drives. If things become stale or follow too much of a routine, fire signs will get bored and likely look for something new. Their ultimate fantasy, according to Stardust, is sex in a public place or “anywhere that is thrill-seeking and adventurous where they can get caught or in trouble.”
If you ever find yourself in bed with a fire sign, don’t be afraid to take the backseat a bit. “Letting them take the lead in the bedroom will lead to maximum pleasure,” Stardust says. These signs tend to know what they’re doing, and they’re more than happy to show off their skills.
Earth Signs: Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn
Earth signs tend to be very sensual and rooted within physical pleasures. They value stability and loyalty, which means they tend to look for long-term relationships rather than fleeting flings, but that doesn’t make them boring lovers. Stardust says that above all, these signs value creativity when it comes to sex; anything that can make an earth sign feel fully grounded in their experience will turn them on. “Earth signs like to feel as if they are in their bodies, so they may like light BDSM or kinks that allow them to be present in the moment,” Stardust says.
While an earth sign will likely appreciate you thinking outside of the box in the bedroom, be sure to talk about any kinks you might want to explore to make sure both of you are comfortable. It’s important not to generalize, because not all earth signs will be into the same thing.
Also, if you ever do find yourself in bed with an earth sign, try to stay in the here and now. They’ll appreciate how fully present you are with them.
Air Signs: Gemini, Libra, Aquarius
Air signs are intellectuals who build a lot of their connections through communication. When it comes to sex, they’re likely down for open dialogue and finding creative ways to use their mouths. According to Stardust, if you’re in bed with an air sign, ask them how they feel about oral sex. “They also like dirty talk and like to hear sweet sensual words whispered in their ears at all times during sex to know what their partner is thinking,” she says. It’s a good idea for both of you to discuss beforehand what you’re comfortable saying—an air sign will be all about ongoing consent (like all signs should be).
When air signs are in the mood, they’ll likely show it through sexy texts sent to their partners before they see them. “Air signs love to flirt and talk about sex,” Stardust says. “The build up and anticipation is their ultimate turn on.”
When having sex with an air sign, don’t be afraid to get vocal; that is the best confirmation for them that you’re having a good time.
Water Signs: Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces
Water signs tend to be very emotional, and that definitely comes through during sex. They enjoy deep, sentimental connections with partners and often crave intimacy beyond the physical. Yet because water signs go with the flow of their feelings, they tend to take the opposite approach to sex. “Water signs have a fear of not being in control, as they are often not in the driving seat when it comes to their emotions,” Stardust says. “As a result, they may want to take the lead during a sexual encounter or experiment with dominance with a willing partner.”
To get a water sign going, there needs to be emotional security established between partners. Though they will have the occasional hookups, water signs value long-term relationships for this reason.
Like with earth signs, thinking outside of the box is key with water signs. They can be very dreamy and romantic, so they appreciate a bit of novelty, especially if it makes them feel special. “Cuddling and sweet kisses turn water signs on,” Stardust says. “Foreplay and role playing is also extremely important to them, as they like to get creative with their imaginations when getting down with their partners.”
A water sign’s ultimate desire? A good cuddle session, advises Stardust. Some pillow talk post-sex also couldn’t hurt—anything to explore the connection more fully.