We were super saddened to hear the recent news that Jemima Kirke, aka Jessa from the hit HBO show Girls, is splitting from husband Michael Mosberg. And in a recent interview with the U.K’s E.S Magazine, Kirke said her acting career led to the divorce.

Kirke and Mosberg have been married for seven years and have two children. Kirke has said in the past that the pair “make no sense together,” but also has always spoken about their super strong bond and their immense love for one another. But after hearing Kirke’s recent update, we definitely understand how she came to this decision.

She went on to clarify, “So much of my life has been about reaction, just following the flow rather than making a strong choice. In acting you are always asking yourself why you do things, why you make the choices you make. Everything means something. And so then you start looking at your own life in that way. I’ve learnt a lot more about myself and started to figure out what I really want.”

Okay, this is actually an extremely honest and reasonable perspective — and it’s one that a ton of people can likely relate to. In a world where it can feel overwhelmingly easy to take the path of least resistance and “go with the flow,” simply taking time out to ask ourselves why we’re doing something can have a huge impact on the decisions we make.

So while we’re definitely feeling for Kirke and Mosberg right now (because divorce is never easy, even in the most amicable situations), we are so glad that Kirke has found clarity and is going after what she needs to be her best self.

Thanks for sharing, lady. This was hugely inspirational.