There’s something so magical about a new beginning; it brings a fresh start and suddenly, everything feels infinite. Kind of like the start of a relationship and its I-just-can’t-stop-thinking-about-you honeymoon stage. You know what we’re talking about — when you start dating someone and all is right with the world, you’re constantly smiling at the 100+ cute text messages exchanged throughout the day, and you’re always on your best behavior.
We’ve been there! Completely enthralled and floating blissfully in our pretty pink bubble, forgetting the fact that the honeymoon phase doesn’t last forever and that our feelings are definitely going to change in some capacity.
More often than not, it eventually fades as you and yours settle into the routine of a serious and hopefully healthy relationship. Once the bubble pops, you’ll start feeling things you probably didn’t expect.
To help us better understand and explain these new feelings and changes, we reached out to astrologer and relationship guru, Danielle Ayoka — more popularly known as MysticxLipstick — to understand the steps of evolving out of the honeymoon stage.
1The Reality-Check Phase
Danielle says, “After the euphoria of finding someone who appears to be everything you’ve been missing wears off, you become comfortable in your new reality with your lover. You’ll quickly realize that your partner isn’t a perfect anomaly that dropped from the sky!”
“Soon after, you start to recognize the tension created from differences in personality, conflict management and self-expression,” she continued.
She also noted that, “If we are not careful, we can start to feel unhappy with our partner instead of realizing that all relationships take mutual work and effort to be truly harmonious long-term.”
After talking to Danielle, we did our own research. We found that after the honeymoon phase ends, comfort begins! By now, you’ve settled into your new couples’ routine and Netflix and chill trumps the need for fancy dates every time you hang out.
The little things you once found adorable will start to annoy you. Trust us, the sound he makes when he chews or the way she mispronounces that one word will become way less cute post honeymoon.
It’s not that you don’t want to see them, but you’ll no longer feel the need to spend ALL your free time together. Remember all the friends you accidentally neglected? This is a great time to reconnect.
After you’ve gotten past the initial borderline obsessive phase and you realize you’re both still really into each other, you gain a new level of confidence in the bond you share and the relationship you’ve created.
This one’s pretty major — you’ll fart. Yes, we said it, you’ll no longer be ashamed of your bodily functions and that’s perfectly normal. You’ll even be able to share the secret things you do when you’re home alone.
9You Feel Safe Enough to Disagree
All couples have disagreements — and now, you’ll feel safe enough to have an argument without worrying it will be the end of your relationship.
10“Not in the Mood”
A lot of things change when you’re no longer in the honeymoon phase, the sex is one of them! It can quickly start to feel a little boring and repetitive and you might not always be in the mood like before.
On the flip side, the sex could be the best you’ve ever had. After all, you’ve spent time learning what your partner likes and dislikes, the lust has been replaced by something deeper, and you’ve found yourself satisfied. #blessed
Anything worth having is worth working for so try not to get too caught up in the feelings that come with transition our of the honeymoon phase.
MysticxLipstick reminds us, “Relationships are always evolving, so there are many phases couples go through as the relationship naturally progresses and develops. Any healthy, mutually beneficial relationship always deserves a chance, it could be your happily ever after!”
We couldn’t have said it any better!