Oh, Emmy Rossum, how you continue to inspire us with your wisdom.
The Shameless star got incredibly candid with fans on Facebook after watching Katie Couric and Sheryl Sandberg discuss the new book, Option B, about the pains, struggles, and triumphs they’ve experienced after tragically losing their husbands and becoming single mothers. With the potent likes of Katie and Sheryl joining forces to share their moving stories — and in the process, uplift other single parents — it’s no wonder Emmy was moved to share her *own* story about growing up with a single mom.
And prepare a box of tissues now, because’s Emmy’s powerful and raw essay is so moving, it may *actually* move you to tears!
“I had a single mom. I have a single mom. This isn’t a secret. Growing up in a school — and a world — filled with mostly two parent units was difficult for me,” Emmy wrote on her Facebook page. What’s more, the actress also revealed her own insecurities about growing up without a father in the picture.
“Father’s Day still is difficult for me. I’m not really sure how to celebrate. In the weeks leading up to it, I sense it coming like a wave approaching. Sometimes I try to ignore it but the ads in the paper or online banner ads for ‘Macy’s Fathers Day Cologne Sale!’ and restaurants selling ‘Father’s Day Brunch Mimosas!’ can make that pretty tricky.”
Okay, pause for a moment while we regain our composure because now we’re crying, too!
In the post, Emmy also revealed how isolating and uncomfortable it was not having a father who wanted to be in the picture and being “born out of wedlock” (which she says is an antiquated term that needs to be retired for good, and we agree!). And more than anything, her discomfort came from feeling like she was the only one being raised in a single-parent household. Which is exactly why she wants kids in the same position to know that they are most certainly ~not~ alone or abnormal in any way.
“There are more single mothers (and parents) now than ever. Today, one in four children is being raised without a father. Almost half of these are divorced or separated. A third [of mothers] were never married,” she wrote. “But if there’s any upside to this widespread loss — it is knowing that there are more kids that are like you. And like me. And now there’s a place to talk about all this stuff.”
And while she says that things like not having a father to walk her down the aisle or having a dad to go to father-daughter dances with as a child are still painful, just being able to vent her frustrations and talk about her true feelings have helped her cope.
“I suppose this is a public thank you note of sorts,” she closed her post. “To my friends, who write me on father’s day and check in to see how I’m doing. To my therapist, who has helped me through things in my life and bolstered my spirit and self-confidence.”
“To my mother, who was and is enough.”
To anyone out there who might be feeling lonely or in pain for *any* reason at all, check out Sheryl Sandberg’s Option B book and online community built to foster hope, and above all us, resilience.