Couples who drink together, stick together, apparently. Contrary to popular belief that “you can’t meet a quality potential S.O. in a bar” the epitome of #relationshipgoals can be found at your local watering hole. Because according to a new study from the University of Michigan, older married couples who have shared similar drinking habits over time – as well as married couples who have abstained together – tend to be happier than couples where only one spouse drinks.
Researchers Kira S. Birditt, James A. Cranford, Jasmine A. Manalel, and Toni C. Antonucci, measured responses from 4,864 married couples in the U.S. from 2006 to 2016, as reported by Reuters Health. Every couple had to conduct in-person interviews and answer questions about their drinking habits. Everything from whether or not they drank, if they did, how many days each week they drank, and how many drinks per day was discussed.
All’s fair in love and booze.
The couples analyzed were married for, on average, 33 years, with over 65% of the couples in their first marriage. Other questions asked were about the quality of the marriage itself – if they thought their spouse was demanding or overly critical, or if they were reliable and helpful.
Based on the results, half the couples surveyed both drank. In the couples who didn’t share the same drinking habits, the wives reported they were more dissatisfied in their marriage, even when they were the ones to indulge in adult beverages when their husbands didn’t.
It’s all about the bond.
“The study shows that it’s not about how much they’re drinking, it’s about whether they drink at all,” Birditt told Reuters Health.
But before you drag bae to a bar and start chugging Moscow mules together, keep in mind that it seems to be less about the actual drinking and more about how time together is spent.
“We’re not sure why this is happening, but it could be that couples that do more leisure time activities together have better marital quality.” Birditt added.
Like most things in love though, it comes down to shared interests. If you are exactly who you are, and you happen to enjoy dark beer, or know everything there is to know about wine, finding someone who shares those interests will make for a whole lot of fun. You two instantly have something in common that bonds you together, and creates a positive base for everything you have yet to learn about each other. So you might not cheer for the same teams, and you might not like the same TV shows, but at least you both love red wine, right?
Is TV the new booze?
Speaking of TV shows, having similar tastes in that area of life might become more prominent than shared drinking habits. As a recent survey conducted by Propeller Insights and Xfinity concluded, 30% of single millennials (out of the 1,935 adults ages 25-49 surveyed) have chosen not to date someone based on their taste in TV shows.
I mean, I get it. TV is a huge part of my life, and I’m not sure I could date someone who hated Game of Thrones or The Office, but loved watching old episodes of The Jerry Springer Show. We just wouldn’t be compatible in all the ways that matter to me. And that’s not to say that we should only date people who like the same exact things we do, but fundamental parts of your personality will not change overnight, so keep an open mind, but also be true to who you are.
Cheers to love.