Divorce isn’t always a bad thing. While separating from a partner can often be a painful experience, sometimes mutually acknowledging it’s time to move on can be in the best interests of everyone. That’s why the hashtag #DivorceSelfies exists – because sometimes, breaking up isn’t hard to do.

The hashtag features couples (well, ex-couples) announcing or celebrating their divorces from one another, whether the photos be in the courtroom or at the bar they went to afterward.

The idea behind many of the social media posts is that separating can be mutual and amicable instead of something steeped in secrecy and resentment.

Couples, acknowledging that a relationship is no longer working for them, are able to move on (and move forward) together with respect and kindness.

Read one woman’s beautiful letter to her ex:

We commend these couples for being honest with themselves and each other, and for finding the courage to move toward better things.