Relationships are grand, but I’m of the school of thought that I’d rather be in no relationship at all than in a bad one. Some relationships start out sweet and then turn sour, others are iffy right from the get-go. Others are perfectly good, but the fact remains that the person you’re with just isn’t quite right for you. If you’re wondering if you’re with the wrong person, here are some signs you just might be:
1. You have that nagging feeling something just isn’t right.
3. Your friends or family seem to be avoiding your partner.
4. They told you they don’t love you.
5. You can’t imagine a future with them, or you can’t stop imagining what your future looks like without them.
There are some people who are really fun in the moment, but when you try and imagine what your relationship might look like in five or ten years, you come up blank. Maybe it’s because you have some fundamental differences of opinion (whether or not you want kids, where you want to live), maybe it’s just someone wildly inappropriate you’re dating because you’re young and you can. This can be a perfectly right person for you if you’re not looking for a long-term commitment, but if you want something lasting and don’t see it with the person you’re with, then they’re not the right one. By the same token, if you can’t stop daydreaming about what your life might look like after they’re no longer a part of it, maybe it’s time to make that dream a reality.
6. There’s someone else who is the right one for you.
Let’s get some things straight: love triangles are messy and cheating just leads to people getting hurt. But if you know there’s someone out there who you’re more interested in than the person you’re with and the feeling’s mutual, you might just owe it to everyone involved to give it a try.
7. You keep making excuses to stay with the person.
“Well, we live together, so just until the lease is up.” “We just bought tickets for a cruise, so maybe after that’s over.” “Well, it’s wedding season and I don’t want to go alone.” If you’re at this point, you probably know your relationship isn’t the right one, but you can always find a reason to put off that breakup. Sure, some of these things might lead to wonderful memories. You can keep finding excuses forever, so it might be better to just bite the bullet before you wake up one morning and realize you wasted years with someone you might not even have liked that much.