How to tell someone you love them through actions, every day
“I love you” are three of the greatest words in the world to hear. When someone tells you they love you, it fills you warmth and reminds you that the people you care about care about you right back, but sometimes being shown how much you’re loved can be even better than be told.
There are a million different ways to do show someone that they hold a special place in your heart, but sometimes we get hung up on the big ways — elaborate surprises, fancy gifts and thoughtful cards — to show that we care. The truth is though, there are plenty of small, subtle (but still oh-so-important) ways to say “I love you” every single day, and to every love in your life.
Whether you’re showing love to you your best friend, your significant other, or your mom, you can spread love with little, personal gestures. You probably already do this without even realizing it, because love drives us to be kind and considerate and just wonderful humans in general. But, if you need a little help finding creative ways to show the most important people in your life just how much you care, look no further. And if you ever start to worry that you haven’t heard “I love you” recently from someone special, take note if they’re showing their love in any of these amazing day-to-day ways.
Ask for an extra helping when they cook for you.
Yes. They’ll notice if you go for seconds (or thirds).
DVR their favorite show for them when they miss it.
And, if you really love them, wait until they’re around to watch it with them. NO SPOILERS.
Share your clothes.
Nothing says, “I love and trust you” like lending someone your favorite sweater.
Give them the bigger slice of pizza.
There actually might be no truer sign of love.
Offer to paint the fingernails on their dominant hand (because this is near impossible to do).
Anyone doing their own nails will feel their heart swell with joy when you make this offer.
Ask them questions about their day.
This one’s easy because you actually really do care.
Let them bail on you.
Sometimes true love means letting go — like if you have plans and they just really need a night to watch Netflix alone in their underwear and go to bed early.
Get a drink special named after them at their favorite bar.
They will actually feel like the coolest.
Save them the last cookie.
The last cookie calls your name. It beckons you. If you can resist its call and save it for your loved one, well, that says a lot more than three words ever could.
Say “I’m sorry” first.
Some people say “love means never having to say you’re sorry,” but I think love means being willing to say it first and often because the other person matters so much more than any fight ever could.
Tell them when a song reminds them of you.
Then, every time they hear the song, they’ll think of you too and it’ll just be one big lovefest.
Offer to help before they have to ask.
They mention that they need someone to walk their dog when they handle a big emergency at work and you’re already grabbing the puppy’s favorite leash before they have time to ask if maybe you’d be free to help.
Leave them random notes.
Who doesn’t feel a rush of joy when they see a handwritten note, left just for them? No one, that’s who.
Make time for a phone call
Because, let’s face it, you let 98% of your calls go to voicemail and someone has to be very special for you to carve out phone time.