A letter to my single friends, who don't get nearly enough credit
To all my fabulous single friends,
Let’s face it, we are currently at a bit of an awkward stage in our lives when it comes to having any social balance. Half of us are moving in with partners, perhaps getting engaged or even having kids, while the other half of us? Well, they’re not. And that’s OK. Actually it’s more than OK.
Being in your twenties doesn’t have to be the time you dedicate your entire existence to one human being and it is perfectly reasonable to be just a little bit selfish. Of course, a big congratulations to my friends who are in solid relationships, I like that you’re happy. But for my single friends, I believe you deserve your own congratulations for proving to both yourself and to the rest of the world that being single doesn’t necessarily equate to being unhappy.
When single, it means there are no commitments other than the commitment to yourself. Right now you have the ability to be the most carefree and spontaneous person you can be. Make the most of your freedom. Book a one-way plane ticket, hang out with complete strangers, make a mistake / two / seventy-nine.
Most importantly, if anybody starts to judge you, make sure you ignore them. You don’t want to be looking back on your life some 70 years from now, saying to yourself, “Why did I care so much about what others thought of me? Why didn’t I live my own life for ME?”
Yes, one day you might meet someone who you consider spending the rest of your life with, but for the time being, let’s focus on the present.
It cannot be denied that there is a weird social pressure to be in a relationship and settle down before a certain age. In some ways, being happily single is still taboo. Some people think you’re not being entirely honest when you say you’re happy with your state of independence, and others mean well, but are overly concerned about your romantic status. There are so many quotes and articles plastered all over the Internet telling you that eventually “your time will come.” and “It’s OK, don’t feel sad about being alone.”
But what if being single doesn’t make the non-relationshipers feel sad? Knowing that you can function without having somebody there to help you every step of the way is one of the most rewarding feelings. It’s something to be proud of, rather than ashamed of.
There will always be haters who are gonna hate hate hate (totally not even sorry I just wrote this), and others who love you but don’t totally get your choices. As long as you’re happy, that is all that should be relevant. However, if you ever do find that you are having a really tough day about your single status, remind yourself how much you’ve accomplished on your own and how many rad things you can do—with or without a partner— in the future.