Plus, the sex toys that will give you mind-blowing Os.

Rebecca Norris
August 26, 2020
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Let’s be honest: Sometimes a vibrator is more appealing than interpersonal sex. Whether you’re on your period, not feeling your best, or simply trying to actually social distance in the midst of a global pandemic, having a sex toy on hand can be super helpful. Of course, in order for it to be just as satisfying (or even more) as having sex, you’ll need to know how to use a vibrator in the first place.  

A big part of grasping this is by understanding that not all vibrators are created equal. Instead, there are a variety of different rumbly sex toys that can be perused for your ultimate pleasure. Prefer pulsing sensations? There’s a sex toy for that. Crave ultra-intense vibrations? Using a freezing method of holding your toy perfectly still can be world-changing. Want to mimic phallic penetration? A sliding method accompanied by lube can be a game-changer.

The point is, whatever you fancy, there’s a toy (think: bullet, wand, and rabbit vibrators, just to name a few) and technique to get you off. To find out what they are, keep reading. 

How to use a bullet vibrator  

Bullet vibrators are ultra-small sex toys that deliver big vibes. “I call the bullet ‘the little black dress of sex toys’ because it can be dressed up or dressed down for any sexual occasion,” says Dr. Jill McDevitt, resident sexologist at sex emporium CalExotics. “It can be a clitoral vibe. It can be used for massage. For stroking the scrotum. For nipples. It can be placed against the cheek to make your mouth vibrate while giving oral sex…” The possibilities are endless.  

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How to use a wand vibrator 

Wands are relics of fairytale books and when it comes to vibrators and getting off, they’re just as magical. These sex toys have a long handle with a vibrating bulb on the end. While it may look a bit daunting upon first glance, know that the bulb is meant to stimulate your vulva, not necessarily your vagina. Of course, if you’d like to insert it, that’s totally cool, too. After all, vibes are what you make of them.  

To achieve mind-blowing Os, Dr. McDevitt says to explore the deeper internal clitoral structure by placing the head of the wand not only on the head of the clit but further south on the labia. You can use a freezing method to let the vibrations do all the work, or you can pair it with a rocking motion to roll it from the side to side of your bits. 

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How to use a rabbit vibrator 

Let’s get one thing straight: Not all rabbit vibrators look like woodland creatures. Instead, it’s the name given to the vibes that have an internal portion as well as outer “rabbit ears” to stimulate the clit. “Rabbit vibrators are great for providing simultaneous G-spot and clitoris stimulation,” says Satisfyer director of education, Megwyn White. “Rabbit and internal vibrators can vary in size, so it’s important to find the right shape and size that fits your body and provides the perfect amount of pleasure, with no pain.” 

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How to use a G-spot vibrator 

Sexologist and relationship expert Dr. Jess O’Reilly points out that the G-spot is less a specific nerve and more a general area deep within the front wall of the vagina that, when stimulated can lead to intense Os. “With G-spot/G-area vibes, you might find that pulsing, curling upward or twisting toys (especially if the toy has pleasure edges) feels good,” she says.  

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How to use a lay-on vibrator 

Lay-on vibrators are less well-known than insertable and wand vibes, but they’re just as orgasmic. “Lay-on vibrators are designed to provide clitoral stimulation as they nestle around the pubic zone and can be a great add on to oral sex for directed pressure. Depending on the shape, they can be used internally and externally and also used for stimulating erogenous zones on the body,” White says. 

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How to use an air-pressure clitoral stimulator 

Quite possibly the greatest, most effective vibrators on the market are those that focus solely on clitoral stimulation. And, if you’ve never tried one, I highly suggest you get on it. “These sex toys mimic the sensation of oral sex, using pressure waves to stimulate the sensitive 8,000+ nerve endings of the clitoral glans, without direct contact,” White explains. “For many people who find internal sexual activity unpleasurable or painful, these clitoral stimulators are a great alternative.” Best of all, all you have to do is place the little opening over your clit, turn the device on, and relish in the toe-curling sensations. 

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How to use a vibrator during sex  

Now that you know how to use all the different types of vibes, you might be wondering how to use a vibrator during sex. While you can absolutely incorporate any of the toys above into interpersonal sex, there are some toys specifically designed for such, like wearable vibes and couple vibes. What’s more, they can be incorporated into every aspect of sex—not just penetration.  

“Vibes are great for adding to activities like oral sex or offering dual pleasure by stimulating areas that aren’t being penetrated,” White says. “You can also use certain wand and bullet vibes to stimulate erogenous zones on the body like the nipples, neck, or inner thighs. Vibrators can also be a great way to show your partner what you’d prefer, using a device as a guide, stimulating areas that you want them to focus on instead.” 

It’s worth noting, however, that the type of vibrator depends largely on the type of intercourse you’re having. That said, keep the below in mind.  

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If you’re engaging with someone who has a penis or strap-on, a vibrating cock ring can be a wonderful addition. “The person with the penis (or strap-on) enjoys the deep vibrations against their shaft and if their partner has a clitoris, it’s perfectly designed to provide extra stimulation in almost every position,” O’Reilly says.  

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Another option is an internal vibe that can feel especially fab for those engaging in sex with a penis-owning person. These vibrators work to send vibrations across the upper wall of the vagina (aka the G-area) while simultaneously arousing the external clit.  

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Then there are harness vibes, which are great for couples where both folks have a vulva. These vibes are designed to fit nicely in a harness to stimulate the wearer externally, and the receiver internally.

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Of course, you can always use your favorite vibrator on yourself while your partner penetrates you, as well. You don’t necessarily need a specific couple’s vibe. If you take this vibe, two-pronged vibes can be super satisfying, as they mimic the feel of manual masturbation, only much more rumbly.  

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