Goldie Hawn seems to be living the golden life (pun totally intended). Just last week, the world-renowned actress went on our *dream* holiday vacation with her family and spent some great mother-daughter time with Kate Hudson as well as Melanie Griffith and Dakota Johnson. And obviously, she’s doing spectacularly in the love department, too, if you consider her 32-year relationship with Kurt Russell that’s still going strong. Now, Goldie has shared her secrets to the perfect — or, as she says, not-so-perfect — long-term relationship.

People gave us a sneak peek of the magazine’s January issue, in which Goldie spills about her love life, her foundation (The Hawn Foundation), and the MindUP program she has been working on with schools all over the world to help kids relax and center themselves in this stressful, modern-day world. Mindfulness is exactly what helps her and Kurt stay strong.

In fact, mindfulness is exactly what helps her and Kurt stay strong. “In relationships, particularly love relationships, people are impatient,” she told People. “They don’t listen.”

Listening is key, but of course, no one is perfect — she and Kurt included. “Sometimes I get mad and sometimes Kurt gets mad. It’s normal,” she explained.

But the ultimate secret? Never staying *too* comfortable, because both people need to grow and learn about each other even 30 years in. “Continuing to listen and grow is important because we get into bad habits in relationships,” she said. “We’re cognizant of these things in our relationships, being mindful and caring and listening.”

Relationships can be messy and frustrating (as we all certainly know!), but that’s normal — and all that matters is that you want to make it work, she said. “We have our ups and downs like everybody else,” the 70-year-old star told People. “You have to want to stay together, and we really want to. Therefore you work to be together.”

Thanks, Goldie, for reminding us that no couple is perfect — not even the superstar pair we all know and love. Perfection isn’t the key to a relationship, but rather, love and listening. <3

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