Thanksgiving is a holiday that, growing up, you probably spent with your family. Family time can be a wonderful thing, but for those of us who occasionally spend Thanksgiving Day avoiding our nosy aunt’s intrusive questions about our career and love life, a nontraditional Thanksgiving can be the perfect holiday.
The nontraditional Thanksgiving with friends — or Friendsgiving — is the best way to develop your relationships even more.
You get to cook with your friends
You may not normally get to cook with friends, and Friendsgiving provides a great opportunity to experience that. The kitchen has a unique way of letting conversation flow around the shared activity of preparing a meal. You and your friends can spend time together is a new way, cooking side by side and creating something you all get to enjoy. You can also share past Thanksgiving memories,which helps you learn more about each other’s families and experiences.
It’s a chance to share your thankfulness for the friends you have.
It’s so easy to get caught up in the day-to-day routine of life, and that often stops us from actually taking time to just sit with friends and be thankful for them (instead of squeezing them in for a ten minute coffee date between meetings and appointments).
We often think our friends just intuitively know how much they mean to us, but that may not be the case. Sometimes you never know how much you have impacted someone’s life until you hear them say it. Going around the table and verbalizing how much the friendships around you have meant to your life can be good for the soul.
It turns friend time into family time.
We can get so used to meeting friends at restaurants and bars. Letting someone into your home can be a little scary – you are literally letting someone into the place that, in most cases, is most “you.” It’s like the physical version of allowing yourself to be vulnerable in a conversation. They see the pictures on your wall, the books you read, and the decor of your household. Inviting friends over to your home is really an invitation to get to know each other more, but that shouldn’t be something to fear.
This is true especially if you live far away from your family — because your close friends can be a lot like another family to you. Don’t be afraid to embrace that!
Treating close friends as additional family — and sharing your home with them — creates a sense of safety, a deeper intimacy, and more commitment to one another. Starting to act like family with your friends is a habit. When you have the habit of loving one another like a family, it fosters better friendships.
Take this holiday to be intentional about creating strong bonds of friendship with those around you. Cook together, tell each other how thankful you are for one another, and treat each other as the “family” you have chosen to do life with.