Allanah Dykes
December 22, 2016 2:07 pm

Do you remember that iconic scene in He’s Just Not That Into You when Drew Barrymore and Scarlet Johannson are talking about all the ways we have to communicate with a guy. “I had this guy leave me a voicemail at work, so I called him at home and then he emailed my blackberry, so I texted to his cell and then he emailed me to my home account…”!

I bet every millennial women feels this angst. Not only do we have to like someone’s tweets, just to have him see our cute video  on Snapchat, just for him to ask us on a date, and then we worry if he’ll put a picture of us on his Instagram or not. Well in 2017, OkCupid has you covered with this list of the most popular things to talk about on the dating site.  This is a compilation of the most discussed topics between potential dates on OkCupid in 2016.

Terms that showed the biggest usage increase in 2016


We are a bit obsessed with how OkCupid used science to break down what techniques to use in the New Year. Although the top five topics weren’t surprising, we were enlightened to how they were approached. Pokemon Go took the number one spot in conversations! We can only hope that perspective couples actually conversed during their hunt for Pikachu, and spent less time looking at their phones.

We also loved that Stranger Things was high on the list as well. Although we would like to think we wouldn’t judge the guy or gal we were going on a date with if he didn’t like the show, we truthfully would be a bit caught off guard. It was just SO good. It is a relief to see everyone else is thinking just like us when it comes to the hit show. At least we know that our date wouldn’t mind discussing if Eleven is alive or not for months to come.

The most surprising thing on the list was how high Trump and the election were. In this generation we were raised to shy away from discussing politics, but it seems as though this election forced the conversation to the table. According to the study, the phrase “if it’s okay with you” appeared 2.5 times more in 2016 than 2015. So whether that phrase was used in regards to discussing consent, or the election in general, we are loving that people are keeping their partners in mind when approaching delicate topics.

[Bonus: We wondered what the third most popular term on that list was — Overwatch — and it’s a video game]

When in doubt no matter how much flirting techniques change, Game of Thrones is always a great conversational piece. Just please do not bring up the fact that you are in love with Jon Snow. Keep that conversation to your best friends, who will much rather appreciate you discussing the mechanics of Jon Snow looking even hotter post betrayal.