People seem to think that someone who has one-night stands on the regular is somehow damaged or compensating for something else or that no one wants to sleep with them more than once. Nothing could be more false. Actually, there are many reasons why one-night stands are positive experiences, and you might benefit from having more of them.
If you want to, of course.
Having a one-night stand once in a while, or even every given Friday night, can actually be so good for you! Also, it’s often the best solution for those stretches of time when you know you aren’t in the best place for a relationship but need to get some. Because waiting for your happily ever after doesn’t mean you have to stay in all the time, eternally swiping left and right in a dating app. Honestly, sometimes a one-night stand can actually turn into a relationship, whether it be based in romance or a shared love of banging on demand.
So stop judging yourself for loving one-night stands and start remembering why they’re so damn great to begin with.
1They’re good reminders of how hot and cool you are.
One-night stands can be a reminder that you’re hot AF and totally worth picking up at a bar. They can be a reminder that you’re confident, funny, and have no problem connecting with strangers. One-night stands are, if nothing else, an adventure, and only certain kinds of people take to that sort of thing. You’re a badass.
2They’re great practice!
Like pizza, there is no such thing as too much sex. Well, sometimes you have to take a break because your body demands it, but in general, the more sex you have the better. Exploring what you like with new partners, and encountering all of their kinks and preferences, is good for your sex-positive soul.
3You get to see more of the world.
OK, well maybe just your city. If you’re the one going to the other person’s place, a one-night stand can be really fun to wake up on the other side of town and try out their bagel place on the way home. People have a tendency to stick to their little bubbles. One-night stands offer a mostly harmless way to explore your city.
4There is no such thing as a “walk of shame.”
Alright, sometimes it feels a little awkward when you’re wearing heels on the subway at 10 a.m. on a Sunday morning, and you’re looking ragged AF. In those situations, you should look the person silently judging you right in the eye and give them a nice, big smile. You just got laid, who cares what people think? It’s not shameful to get yours.
5Sometimes they turn into multiple-night stands.
Sometimes, when you least expect it, that one-night stand turns into something else. If you only want to hook up with someone once, that’s one thing, and that’s totally fair. But sometimes, having one-night stands is a good way to taste test someone to see if they could be something more significant. The one-night stands that turn into mini flings or straight up long-term relationships are the reason we all stay in this crazy dating game.
6Did we mention the sex?
Seriously, did we? Because that’s definitely a thing. Sex is so good.
7They make for great stories.
When a one-night stand is good, you have a great story to tell when the weekend is over. When the one-night stand is absolutely dreadful and weird, that can be even more entertaining for everyone else in your life. Everyone wins.
8Not everyone is ready to settle down.
We really have to shut down the stigma of being single. Yes, when you want a relationship and don’t have one, it can suck. But some people really enjoy no-string-attached interactions with sexual partners. Not everyone is trying to meet someone, marry, and start procreating. Some people even want to stay single forever, and one-night stands might be a part of their lives for the rest of their lives, or at least the near future. Let people live, and let yourself live.