There are few things more nerve-wracking than asking someone out. Figuring out the lead-up, the right things to say, even what to wear can all play a key role in successfully asking someone out. But, of course, all the preparation can’t do the work itself — it’s also very easy to come off creepy or inappropriate when it comes to asking someone out. But here are some non-creepy ways to ask someone out — HelloGiggles approved!
If you have a connection with someone, this is the easiest way for you to make your move. If you’re | already acquaintanced with someone and share some kind of common ground — perhaps you’re both in a club, you like the same kind of music, or you have even read the same book — this can all be an easy way to create a segue to asking someone out on a date.
This can be more controversial, but usually, making sure that this person is interested in being asked out heightens your chances of a successful date with your potential beau. Build up a relationship of some kind with this person, and make sure that they’re comfortable with the idea of dating before you take the plunge.
Want a successful date? Make sure that it’s in line with what your potential beau is actually interested in. A coffee date may be great to get to know each other better, but you could be missing out on an opportunity to really wow them if they’d much rather go to a county fair or a book signing by their favorite writer.
Asking someone out doesn’t always end in success. Respect the person’s boundaries if they say no or that they’re not interested in dating — coercion isn’t ok.
Having a successful date with someone could require going out-of-the-box. But if your date is into something quirky and unexpected, then this could be a way to pique their interest and make a good impression.
Touching can be a way to establish intimacy with someone — but only when it’s been consented to, of course. If not, touching can come off as uncomfortable and inappropriate. Until you’re sure of how your date will respond, refrain from intimate touches (and always ask for permission first).
No one likes inauthenticity. Showing your true self from the beginning — your best self — is going to go over a lot smoother than trying to pretend to be someone that you’re not.
No one likes to be put on a pedestal. Even though you think that this person is cute or interesting, your crush is a regular person just like you. Avoid putting them on a pedestal or making them seem unattainable, and just approach them like you would anyone else. You’ll be surprised at what this can do for your nerves — and the general vibe you’re giving off.
No one likes people who are boring. Making an effort to have engaged, genuine conversation that centers on something other than dating can often work in your favor. And who knows — the topic of dating may come up naturally in conversation, no segue necessary.
If solo dates seem too intimidating right off the bat, why not explore options like inviting your crush to a casual group outing? This could take the stress off of having a romantic date — instead, you can focus on getting to know each other.
Sometimes, our first intstincts are best. If you want to just go right up to your crush and ask point blank if they want to go on a date, go for it. Sometimes fortune favors the bold (and non-creepy).