Kenya Foy
Updated Sep 13, 2017 @ 2:44 pm
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So, you’re in your 30s. You’ve been some places and seen some things by now, but plenty of ass-kicking days still lie ahead of you. Well-meaning parents or naysayers who are too afraid to do whatever marvelous thing you’re about to do in your 30s (because you totally can!) will try to convince you that you’re too old for some things. But understand that says more about them and their perceived limitations than it does about your ability to live life the way you want to.

Anyone who says your 30s are too late to do certain things are more than likely doing some hardcore projecting. If you’re struggling to reject those antiquated notions, we’ll do it on your behalf.

In short: Ignore the haters and doubters. If you’re under the impression that you can’t do something because you’re in the third decade of your life, don’t buy into it. You didn’t get where you are by letting ageist BS drag you down, so take advantage of the fact that you’ve arrived at an absolutely wonderful age where you’re old and young enough to do whatever you choose without explaining yourself to anyone.

1Get in shape.

Your body isn’t as forgiving of your bad habits as it was in your 20s, so we give you permission to mourn the loss of metabolism and the silence that has now been replaced by popping noises when you stand up (or sit down or move too quickly or…).

However, we do not grant you a pass to give up on taking care of yourself. Despite all the physical changes your body has and will continue to undergo, it is entirely possible to incorporate fitness into your life at any age.

2Wear WTF you want.

Bump all those restrictions that say you can’t wear a crop top past your 20s or the ones that deem 30-somethings too old to sport short shorts or a bikini on the beach. Sure, turning 30 will probably impact your fashion choices, but you should still fill your closet with looks that make you feel good, no matter what that is.

3Switch careers.

No, you’re not doomed to working in a career field that doesn’t suit you just because you’ve dedicated the past several years to getting where you are in your profession. The good thing is, you’re more experienced now in so many ways, which is important to keep in mind when you’re thinking of a fresh start in your 30s.

Also, please see all of the famous people who made it later in life, and understand that your professional future isn’t doomed because you’re still figuring things out.

4Go back to school.

Being the same age as your teacher sounds kinda awk, but don’t let any age limits deter you from furthering your education. For 30-somethings who want to go back to school, you won’t be alone: A 2013 Forbes article reports that 22 percent of undergraduate students in the U.S. are over the age of 30, according to the National Center For Education Statistics. “From 2010 to 2020, the NCES projects a rise of 20% in enrollments of students 25 and over,” the article notes.

5Finding love again or for the first time.

There are some pretty gross patriarchal attitudes out there that work to make women feel unwanted and invisible after a certain age, trust that it’s never too late to find love. We won’t pretend like dating in your thirties doesn’t come with its own set of challenges, like working around a busy schedule if you have children from a previous relationship or finding prospects if you’re not into using dating apps. But keep pushing through, and don’t allow any hangups about being part of the Dirty Thirty club to slow your progress.

6Get a tattoo.

If getting inked is part of your ongoing glowup that happens to take place after you hit 30, or you’ve just been too afraid to try it until now, go for it. You’re grown enough to decide what to do with your body, and also mature enough to live with the potential regrets (or pay to have them covered or removed).

7Start setting boundaries with your family.

Ideally, we’d all develop this skill set as early as possible, but sometimes it doesn’t happen until later in life when a major change like getting marriage forces you to set boundaries with your parents. Even if your 20-something self struggled to lay down the law with the folks who brought you into this world, there’s no time like the present to respectfully let them know what you will and won’t stand for. Late is definitely better than never!

So, go out there and continue striving to be the best you possible. Regardless of your age, you still have everything you need to make sure that your most fulfilling days are ahead of you.