Nikki Grey
March 01, 2016 9:11 am

I could not tell you how many times someone has told me “Stop being so sensitive.” I’m sure people mean well when they say something like this, but doing so implies that there is something wrong with being sensitive. I hate to admit it, but sometimes I believe the people who say this are right. Wouldn’t it be nice if my feelings were never hurt? Wouldn’t it be easier if I didn’t read into things so much? The answer is: probably. But if I weren’t so delicate, I wouldn’t be as thoughtful as I am about other people’s feelings. I wouldn’t be capable of having so much empathy.

Here are some of the everyday struggles you learn to live with if you’re super sensitive.

You get emotional after reading/watching/hearing something sad

If you’re super sensitive, sometimes it’s difficult to emotionally separate yourself from art. That means reading a tearjerker of a book, watching sad movies or listening to so many kinds of music can make you have a lot of feelings. No, I’m not crying. I just have allergies.

Which brings me to my next point…

You cry a lot

Or, more than other people or more than expected. I cry happy tears when something really good happens or when I remember some of the best things that have happened to me or people I love. If you’re super sensitive, you probably cry when you’re sad, too, which btw, isn’t a bad thing. It releases the emotions.

You love deeply and super quickly

This in itself isn’t a struggle, but it can become one. Feeling things deeply isn’t a bad thing — it allows you to love passionately — but doing so can turn into pain when the people you care about let you down, are suffering or when a number of other negative scenarios surround those you love.

You worry about other people

Since you know what it’s like to have your feelings hurt (ahem, a lot), you try your best not to cause anyone else to feel the same way. You may be careful with your words, so you don’t say anything that could be offensive. Or maybe you aren’t as cautious as you could be, but then you worry about it, hoping that you haven’t hurt someone’s feelings.

As noted before, you don’t want to see your loved ones in pain, and you worry about them. A lot. You wish you could solve all of their problems, and you try to do everything you can to show you are there for them. You also have great empathy for people you don’t know. You become depressed when you think about other people suffering, and get upset when you think about the problems of the world.

You are hurt when people say callous things

No one is perfect, and each of us is guilty of being insensitive sometimes. Comments are not always intended to be hurtful, but when someone says something that is ambiguous or inconsiderate, it’s hard not to spend a lot of time wondering what that person meant. Like calling someone else sensitive, for example. Does that mean you don’t accept me for who I am?

Don’t get me wrong, as much as I think I am fine as is, sensitivity and all, I do try to give people the benefit of the doubt and assume they aren’t trying to hurt my feelings. It just takes work. And sometimes I have to do other things to curtail my sensitivity, just to make life easier.

Those of us who are sensitive know there are strengths and weaknesses to this personality trait. Being in touch with our feelings — the good and the bad — is part of who we are. Sure, we are fragile beings, but we also are loving and considerate. And that’s something to celebrate. Being sensitive may give us some daily struggles, but to me, they are worth it.

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