Remember the moment in the movie 27 Dresses (an awesome romantic comedy about a perpetual bridesmaid and a wedding reporter) when Katherine Heigl and James Marsden get stranded in a bar in the middle of Nowhere, New York? They argue a lot. They drink a lot. Then the song Bennie and the Jets comes on and this happens:
After they (endearingly) butcher the lyrics to a perfectly awesome Elton John song and show off some super cheesy (yet again, endearing) dance moves, these two opposites bond over the fact that they both like to look at the groom during a wedding while everyone else is looking at the bride. They like to see the look on the groom’s face when he first sees his soon-to-be-wife walking down the aisle. (And then lots of fun romantic things happen with Katherine and James’ characters. If you haven’t seen the movie, get on it. Seriously. Do it.)
We have to agree. Watching a groom see his bride for the first time is a moment that really brings the feels. It’s special. It’s a true once-in-a-lifetime moment. Unfortunately, this romantic moment is becoming extinct. Why? Because we’re ruining this perfect, gorgeous moment with our cell phones. For real, you guys. OUR CELL PHONES. Ugh.
Professional wedding photographer, Thomas Stewart, brought this matter to our attention earlier this week when he posted a photo he’d recently taken at a wedding on his Facebook page. You know what they say: A picture is worth a thousand words. And in this case, the picture indeed speaks volumes. It shows the “groom moment” we all love so much, the moment when he watches his bride coming toward him down the aisle. Or it WOULD, if the aisle wasn’t crammed full of people taking candid pics with their cell phones.
In the caption, Stewart writes, “Look at this photo. This groom had to lean out past the aisle just to see his bride approaching. Why? Because guests with their phones were in the aisle and in his way. This sucks.” Um yeah, it does. We’re sure the wedding guests had no idea this was happening, so it’s great that Stewart is pointing it out. He goes on to say that he’s not pointing fingers at the particular guests in this photo, and he takes a large chunk of the blame for letting it happen. He says he should have been more clear with his clients about all the reasons why it’s important to ask guests not to use their cell phones during the ceremony. And we have to say, his reasons seems completely understandable. For starters, they get in the photographer’s way. Not only do they block shots, but the bride and groom end up with dozens of photos of people taking photos. Who wants those?
Also, like in the case of the photo Stewart posted, they get in the way of the bride and groom. They can’t even see each other. How sad is that?!
Stewart continues by saying that the quickie photos guests take usually aren’t that great anyway (certainly not as good as the ones the bride and groom are paying a professional to take), plus does the couple getting married really want to look around at all their family and friends gathered around and see nothing but faces blocked by technology? We’re thinking no, they don’t.
Stewart has a definite point, and it’s illustrated really well by his photo. So well that the picture has gone viral, with close to 65,000 likes, 42,000 shares and over 14,000 comments in just two days. He’s obviously struck a chord with the collective consciousness.
We’re guessing his post might even help start an unplugged wedding trend. And that would be a good thing. A wedding is a sacred ceremony, a special day. Shouldn’t we choose to experience something like that by fully embracing the moment rather than documenting it for IG? We love to take cell phone pics as much as anyone does. (My ridiculously huge camera roll can attest to that.) But maybe it’s time to put our phones down for a change.
That expression of awe and adoration on the groom’s face looks so much sweeter when you’re not viewing it through a digital screen. We promise.
[Images via 20th Century Fox and Thomas Stewart Photography on Facebook.]