If you were born after 1994, you definitely remember a time in the not-so-distant past where Nicole Richie, Paris Hilton and Lindsay Lohan made the majority of headlines; some good, some bad. But what’s become of those women now? Nicole Richie popped up in Lena Dunham’s and Jenni Konner’s insanely inspirational and always enlightening Lenny newsletter (sign up for the weekly email here!) this week to speak out on how she will not apologize for her rebellious youth.
Having recently turned 35, the reality star and daughter of singer Lionel Richie reflects on her more impulsive years in a piece titled “Untitled, and that’s the point!” saying:
“It is no secret that I have, at times, taken advantage of my time on this planet. And as much as I have to look at those moments and learn from them, as we all do, it’s important for me to have gratitude for that time, too. Not shame. Being ashamed of your life is not OK.”
Richie cops to having some pretty outrageous instances in her youth, but after 13 years of cleaning up, starting a family and owning a booming business, her interests and lifestyle have changed. She adds one very, very important side note: she will not admit to have being “bad” as a young adult. Richie explains how it is common for adult women with spouses and children to think back and become embarrassed about who they were in their wilder years. She says that there is little to regret if said actions have helped shape the successful and well-rounded woman you are today.
“I could fall into the role-playing that some people seem to want and say, ‘YES! I am so sorry. I was bad. I am good now! I promise.’ But I don’t believe in that story of redemption, a good-prevailing-over-evil story. … I am not going to apologize for being me so you can get your triumphant ending.”
Her words make us stop and think. Who are we apologizing to, half of the time? If we are okay with our own actions; past, present and future, than who else is there to answer to? Nicole reminds us that if we keep moving in a positive direction, eventually the past explains itself as part of our marvelous backstory. No apologies here!