Apparently newlyweds are taking honeymoons without their spouses, and what?
You’ve planned the wedding together, walked down the aisle together, and said your vows together. Now, there’s only one thing left to do: go on separate honeymoons. According to a new report in The New York Times, anyway. According to the paper, traveling alone—as in, without your new spouse—for your honeymoon is actually a trend. In fact, the practice is apparently so trendy, it has two nicknames: solomoons and unimoons. “Neither of us wanted to be where the other one was,” Irene O’Brien, who recently wed Mel Maclaine, told the Times. “We each came back to Dublin full of stories, buzzing of our trips and truly delighted to see each other again to share the memories: It was the perfect imperfect honeymoon.”
According to Jessica Carbino, an online dating expert and a sociologist for the dating app Bumble, this is all a part of the evolving idea of what marriage means.
However, not everyone is on board with the idea of separate trips to kick off a marriage. “Perhaps I’m old-fashioned, but I think it should be marked,” Helen Fisher, a senior research fellow at the Kinsey Institute, which conducts research on relationships, told the Times. “You are at a new stage in your life when you marry, and you are missing out on triggering the three most valuable brain systems for a lasting relationship.”
And Fisher isn’t alone in her criticism. After the piece was published, social media lit up with people laughing off the idea of “unimoons.” “Unimoon, Babymoon..it’s vacation people,” Twitter user Lisa Zizzo wrote.