I won’t deny it. I’ve kind of become a master at graciously accepting compliments from friends and fellow passerby alike. Oh, I have great hair, you say? Why thank you. My nail art is a thing of gods, you say? Well, hello, thank you.
See, I make it look easy, but the truth is that it hasn’t always been all that easy for me. Compliments are difficult to accept and easy to evade. They oftentimes leave people feeling awkward, uncomfortable, and undeserving. At least, that was true for me.
But the thing is, compliments are really just a form of validation. Even when it’s a compliment that has to do with a pair of earrings you’re wearing or a homework assignment you aced. You picked out those earrings, and that homework assignment is just an extension of yourself because it’s your work and you made it happen and HOW COOL IS THAT?
If you think that it’s narcissistic to shamelessly accept a compliment, well I wholehearted disagree. People are allowed to marvel at themselves. Not enough folks do it if you ask me.
You’re kind of amazing and probably do that double-jointed thumb thing that I can’t do which is awesome so why not accept that awesome one-of-a-kind thing that you can do? If you’re still struggling on how to accept those “you” things you do when people bring them up. No worries I, have got your back with a fool-proof scenario based guide.
Complimentor: I like your scarf.
You: Thanks, I like it too.
Complimentor: You’re the most beautiful person I’ve ever seen.
You: Thanks, I’ll let my grandmother know her genes didn’t go to waste.
(Other option) You: Thank you, my grandmother thinks so too, so I guess it must be true.
Complimentor: Great bangs!
You: Thanks, *touch bangs in a flip-like motion* they practically blow-dry themselves.
Complimentor: You’re just plain amazing.
You: Thank you, I try.
OR, a personal favorite that can be used in any situation:
Thanks, I’ll effing take it. *then walk away leaving all humans stunned by your graciousness, ya cool girl*
I give you all #props ever, friend. Compliments are great. Absorb them, and give them out freely, too.
[Image via Netflix]