Mom buys coffee for her body-shamers, because you can change the world in little ways
When someone is rude and unkind and hurts your feelings, you usually want to crawl in a hole and hide forever. Or hurt them right back. Or hurt them back and THEN crawl in a hole and do the whole hiding forever thing. It’s a rare person who responds to an act of cruelty with an act of generosity.
That’s why we are so impressed with Dianne Hoffmeyer, of Fort Gratiot, Michigan, who recently experienced a nasty bout of body-shaming at a Tim Hortons.
While waiting in line with her 22-month old for donut holes and coffee, Hoffmeyer overheard two women gossiping about her appearance.
“‘Oh look at her hair, its nasty looking and the roots are coming through’,” Hoffmeyer recalled the women saying while speaking with WXYZ Detroit about the incident. “‘Oh she’s a whale, oh the whale needs to eat.”‘
Hoffmeyer, who recently lost 177 pounds, was naturally hurt by such cruelty.
“I instantly started to cry, because it hurts. I don’t know the women,” Hoffmeyer explained to WXYZ. “I don’t know why they would choose to say something like that.”
However, rather than getting mad or getting even, Hoffmeyer got kind. She told the cashier that she would like to pay for these women’s coffees.
“My 2-year-old daughter is a mini-me and she mimics everything I do,” Hoffmeyer told the Port Huron Times Herald. “I wanted to do the right thing so when she’s old enough she’ll know the right thing to do.”
Hoffmeyer ended up writing about the experience on Facebook, and her post went viral, receiving likes from over 166,000 people. Hoffmeyer has received 94,000 friend requests in response to her story and hundreds of supportive messages.
“For this to happen, it’s left me speechless,” Hoffmeyer told the Times-Herald. “The encouragement and kindness that I’ve received from all over the place is amazing. Just when you think there’s no one nice in the world, they’re all on my Facebook page.”
We’re so glad kindness won out in the end. We’re sure it would have been a cathartic experience for Hoffmeyer to turn around and give those cruel women a piece of her mind. That said, we have no doubt that generosity was the LAST thing these women expecting from Hoffmeyer, and maybe the kindness Hoffmeyer displayed will rub off on these ladies. We’ll never know, but we can certainly hope.
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