Kristen Bell says this is the biggest lie ’80s movies tell us about love

Dax Shepard and Kristen Bell started dating all the way back in 2007, and they’ve always been candid with fans about their relationship and subsequent marriage—specifically about the fact that things aren’t as easy as they seem. And in a new joint interview with People, Bell got real about what it was like to fall in love with Shepard, and why it wasn’t at all like it is in the movies.

She told the magazine, "All these movies from the ’80s taught us that it’s love at first sight, and it is supposed to be easy and [that] all you have to do is find that person." She added, "It took me a while to realize, ‘Oh, that was such a lie,’ because things that you work really, really, really hard for always yield the best results.'"

Shepard agreed, adding, “We definitely had to work really hard at being a couple because we’re both incredibly, painfully stubborn, and we’re pretty much opposites.”

The couple has been open in the past about how it definitely wasn’t love at first sight when they met, as well as that they used to have a lot of “toxic” fights before they worked on healthy communication and attended couple’s counseling. Shepard also opened up about why he ultimately proposed to Bell—even though he doesn’t technically believe in the concept of marriage.

‘Well, I’m doing it because my partner wants that, he said of his logic. “Forget the tradition or history of marriage as a concept, you [Bell] knowing I was doing something that I didn’t want to do because I loved you was a big sign for you.

So there you have it. There definitely was no grand declarations of love with a boombox for these two—and honestly, we’re glad. Because this version is so much more valuable as a model for those of us living in the real world.

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