Kelly Rowland opened up about the importance of a “shecosystem,” and everyone should read this

Women are constantly pressured to “have it all”—to be perfect employees, wives, and mothers.  There are various schools of thought on the “have it all” debate, but if you ask Kelly Rowland, she says you can—you just need a good “shecosystem.” Rowland coined this brilliant term, which is basically just an elevated way to describe close, supportive friends. She used it in an interview with O, The Oprah Magazine, while sharing how she grapples with the chaos and stress of everyday life.

"I think that we can have it all with a great support system in place—that shecosystem," she said. "You can’t do it by yourself. Whether it’s friends, family, or your significant other, it takes a community and you figure it out every day. As women, because we hold so much emotion, we put unnecessary stress on ourselves, and we don’t even realize that we’re doing it until we’re in a corner just kind of rocking, later trying to figure it all out."

Rowland goes to therapy, but she recognizes that therapy is a financial privilege. For those who can’t afford mental health care, this is where your shecosystem comes into play.

"If you feel like something is wrong and you’re just bursting inside and you don’t know where to put all of it, you have to surround yourself with the people that can help you connect, where you can release all of that," she said. "It’s important to have the woman you can call when you’re stressed. It’s important to be able to tell your husband, 'I need a day just by myself,' which I’ve done before. You can have it all, but you need a system."

Read the rest of Rowland’s interview at

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