Here’s what it’s really like to be asexual and married

According to the Asexual Visibility and Education Network, an asexual person is”someone who does not experience sexual attraction.” The organization explains, that unlike chosen celibacy, asexuality is an intrinsic aspect of who they are. It is just a different set of challenges than most sexual people. There is considerable diversity among the asexual community; each asexual person experiences things like relationships, attraction, and arousal somewhat differently”.  There is one way to determine if someone is asexual. It’s like other identities it’s just a word that people use to help figure themselves out.

Finding out your partner is asexual after being together for years, it can be tough. When a partner comes out as asexual there are a lot of things to work out and a lot of adjustments that need to be made on both sides.  The key to making things work, like in all relationships, is open and honest communication with each other.

A little openness can be a good thing

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Dreams can come true

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It can be quite a shock

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It’s okay to feel a little blindsided

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The frustration is super real

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Communication is key

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The truth will set you free

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Searching for a solution

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Emotional distance does not make the heart grow fonder

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Talk to your wife!

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There is always an answer

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Open hearts and open minds

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I’ll say it again – communication!

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It’s difficult to do the right thing

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Revelations can be hard

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There is never a perfect time to come out

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Love will find a way

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The first baby step can feel like a giant leap

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Congratulations for coming out!

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Sacrificing for love

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We feel for you

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Don’t knock it ’till you try it

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To find out more about being Asexual, check out the Asexual Visibility and Education Network for FAQs and more information.

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