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Though it’s not always the best idea to get *too* obsessive about celebrity relationships (looking at you/ourselves, the Brad and Angelina obsessed!), sometimes they can actually teach us a lot about love, dating, and marriage. And Nicole Kidman is turning her relationship with Tom Cruise into a learning experience. Remember that time Nicole Kidman got married to Tom Cruise? Yeah, we’d kinda forgotten, too! Over 20 years ago now, the pair got married, and Kidman is looking back with new, wiser eyes.

In an interview with U.K.’s Red Magazine she said,

Things didn’t pan out as she expected at the time, and the two divorced in 2001.

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Of her current marriage to Keith Urban, Kidman said,

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For Kidman, love and marriage has been a learning experience. She says,

If nothing else, this is proof that even when a relationship ends, it doesn’t always mean it failed. Sometimes, it was meant to be a step toward a new path, and Kidman proves that there’s value in looking back and seeing things a little differently with time.