Earlier this year, we learned that Jenny Slate and Chris Evans had broken up. The two kept a very low-profile for the nine months they were dating, and we admire and respect the hell out of them for keeping their love life completely private. But now, almost two months after their split, Jenny is opening up about exactly what went wrong with the two of them.

Well, wrong isn’t the right word. Jenny still clearly respects and admires Chris, but the two were simply moving at different speeds and as things often do, the they just didn’t work out.

Jenny also found herself confused by the fact that Chris was so popular, and also so sexualized.

Moving forward, Jenny also knows what she wants from her next relationship. (Requirement #1: He has to know who Gloria Steinem is, and honestly, that should be a requirement for everyone.)

If we all just had a positive, optimistic outlook on life and moving forward like Jenny, the world would be a much better place. You can read her full interview over at Vulture.